So after the funeral.....

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Originally Posted by countryswan;

So, tell us, do you like your aunt.. is she someone you feel you can trust your private conversations with.. or is she close to other family members you don't particularly care for, and perhaps she may not be as discretionary with your conversations, or worse.. you may have to sit with them all at the next backyard BBQ.

This sounds negative, I apologize.. just reflecting ahead for you.

Not negative but realistic. No, I pick and choose what I tell her and her husband. Her husband is the interfering type. My aunt herself, she's close to my uncle who has zero filter and info just has a way of getting to him . His wife is also a big talker in the same way.

For instance, one of my other uncles has a disease he has been dealing with for years. He once made the choice to confide in Uncle Zero Filter about his disease and other life issues - big mistake. Now relatives we've never even met know all
about it.

I do tell my aunt things I don't mind if she repeats and she tends to be a good listener.

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Originally Posted by yellowsnow;

It's all about the guilt. People feel bad in the moment. Bad that they haven't taken the time and energy to share more of themselves with people who aren't going to be around forever. Sad that they didn't visit Aunt Harriet more or send cards or a small gift every once in a while. They also see a not so pretty picture of their own mortality and hope others will treat them better than they treated their elders.

Will it last? Probably not!

Yes, I definitely saw that guilt with some of the other relatives. There was someone who immediately came to mind when I read your post .