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I was two weeks shy of 29 when my husband passed away. The next ten years was pretty numb and I did nothing at all with my life except survive. But at 39, with some help from a friend I started trying again. For me it started with taking up a martial art. This was so far outside of my comfort zone and just not anything like the person I thought I was. But my friend thought it might help me and I was pretty desperate.My life was going downhill fast and I was starting to give up on ever having a chance to be happy. So I walked in the dojo one day in may 2009 and began a journey that has led me to a journey of self discovery like I never expected. This led me to find a new circle of wonderful friends and they provided support that I was lacking and a lot of encouragement and good advice. This led to me discovering a great new career and getting a nice upgrade in my standard of living. I have become more assertive, more confident and independent. This spring I will be taking my first degree black belt test. My horse and I will spend many more hours out on the trails and I a looking forward to a second year at a job that I love and life in the apartment that I always dreamed of having. While I still miss my late husband greatly I am also very glad that my life has become what it is today.
This is interesting. After my divorce I was tired of being passive and doing everything the now Ex told me to do (yes, he controlled everything I did and my schedule had to be built around him which meant no time for sports and exercise), I took up a martial art too. Been doing it for ten years and love it, even though I am ten years older than everyone in my class, but it has been how I survived the last ten years and how I reinvented myself after having two losses in the same year 2007. To the OP, keep us posted...please.
We aren't divorced but I'm about to lose my husband of 35 years. I don't think he'll live long enough to get to 36 and I'm starting to think about what my future is going to be. I love the beach as you might see above and I think I'd like to live closer to it. That means at this point in my life I'd be about 3 hrs from my adult children. I'm not sure I want to be that far away from them, however, this man has held me back from so many things over those 35 years that I am determined to live my own life for once! Maybe it will be better for our children if I do that from a distance?
Wanted to update and let you know that Friday I graduated from one of the best TESOL courses available.
(teaching English to speakers of other languages).
Still figuring out my next step, which is to focus on regaining my health and stamina.
I am spending a zillion hours reasearching and hoping to find somewhere I can learn the best way to heal while tutoring .
My adventure calls me!!
Good to hear from you the OP and wondering where you will go next! I'm reinventing myself already - switched careers, moved back to a city I used to live in a decade ago, and now trying to relearn French that I lost over the last several decades and trying to build relationships with French speaking friends here in the US and in Canada. Maybe I'm finally in the right direction, I hope.
Wanted to update and let you know that Friday I graduated from one of the best TESOL courses available.
(teaching English to speakers of other languages).
Still figuring out my next step, which is to focus on regaining my health and stamina.
I am spending a zillion hours reasearching and hoping to find somewhere I can learn the best way to heal while tutoring .
My adventure calls me!!
I am so excited for you! Please keep us posted!
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