Mothers Day

[coschristi]

Originally Posted by tamiznluv

Oh, my dear coschristie! I feel devastated by your truth. I just can not imagine. I did not know kids died from the DPT shot. I just never thought about things like that since my kid didn't suffer any side effects from anything.

I always put my baby on her tummy at bedtime. My Mom was an RN and she told me if the baby spit up or threw up, they were less likely to aspirate if they were on the tummy. If I had babies now, I would still do it that way.

Thank you so much for your honesty. You came out on the other side and that is a good thing. (((Hugs)))

Thank you Tamzinluv; I am an RN too, I always put my babies on their tummies ... the night my daughter died she was on her back.

I think, it would be better to put babies on their tummies & not induce seizures ...!

[coschristi]

Originally Posted by harry chickpea

Coschristie, sometimes a post will literally stun me with the candid honesty and attempt to use the pain of experience to help others avoid traps. Yours did that. Know that your sharing the effect of that deep loss can, and likely will, help others.

Thank you. Nemaste. I bow to the divine in you.

Oh thank you, I was afraid when I tapped ‘submit reply’. I thought well, it’s done. The Internet never forgets ...

But you validated me ... that means so much to me. It occurs to me that I want so badly for her to never be forgotten ... Now I am glad the internet never forgets.

OP; I remember you & your son. So many people now, they ae afraid too keep their eyes open, or are like me & too afraid to close them. Your son was a warrior. And you are a good mother.

[Cida]

Originally Posted by meo92953

I moved away from my old state almost two years after my son died. It was difficult for me to keep explaining that he was diabetic and didn't take care of himself. His choice.

One day I woke up and realized there was nothing tying me to my state anymore. I stayed to be close to my son. I had personally had enough of the cold and snow, so I left.

It's been a year and a half since then and I've gotten to know some people but not that many yet. I just moved into a new complex and somehow forgot it's Mother's Day weekend. A few neighbors have asked if I'm a mother and I hesitate to answer.

That's a yes and no. I still feel like his mother, even though he's gone, but technically I suppose I'm not.

Of course you're still his mother. And you should figure out how to answer the question. One way might be to politely say, "Yes, I had a son but unfortunately he died from complications with diabetes." And then instantly change the subject, so that the person asking doesn't feel embarrassed or awkward.

[meo92953]

Thank you. That's a beautiful response.

[tamiznluv]

Of course you should acknowledge your son, meo! Why would you even think not to? Simply state your son has passed. He didn't stop being your son just because he died!

My best.