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If you're not a Black woman, how else are you getting this in-depth knowledge?
From the many black woman I know who say no, that is not their experience. When you have worked with thousands of people on the matter of their lives and their dreams, as I have, you have a perspective available that one cannot can get looking only from the vantage point of their own personal experience.
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Originally Posted by Enyo
You can live in whatever reality you create for yourself, but don't think for a second it's the same reality that I'm forced to live everyday without a choice.
And that's exactly my point, that you do have a choice in how you live, but you can't see it because you think reality IS a certain way, and can't yet recognize that it only SEEMS that way, because of the perspective you are looking from.
And this is a moment for you to be RIGHT, or to be INFORMED, one or the other. It doesn't affect the quality of my life, whichever you choose. But it definitely affects the quality of yours.
I'm a 26 year old black women (not affiliated with military) and live in Ewa. I haven't experienced any racism and routinely get called sistah or auntie by neighbors. I'm not single so I can't speak to the dating aspect but see no reason why anyone would limit themselves to one pool. Get out there and have a good time! I'm from small town Indiana and feel very lucky to live in such a beautiful place. I've found if you respect people and have an open loving heart you will receive much of the same.
First of all, the word popolo was adopted to mean "black" people. Popolo is a hawaiian medicinal shrub plant with very small berries that start off orange/reddish and turns black in color when ripe. In general, it is a relationship between the color of the skin and the color of the berry which is being used as a descriptor. It is not an "ugly" word. It is just a descriptor. Unfortunately, a lot of Hawaiian words are being battered and turned into "ugly" words because of how others construe its meaning. A popular one is "haole." Now it's considered a "bad" word and people speak the word privately and in hushed tones while looking around. Auwe, what is this place turning into!?
Another thing, nothing wrong with popolo wahines! I had 2 popolo girlfriends before; 1 here and 1 on the mainland (not at the same time). All good! Mo popolo da berry, da sweeta da juice!
First of all, the word popolo was adopted to mean "black" people. Popolo is a hawaiian medicinal shrub plant with very small berries that start off orange/reddish and turns black in color when ripe. In general, it is a relationship between the color of the skin and the color of the berry which is being used as a descriptor. It is not an "ugly" word. It is just a descriptor. Unfortunately, a lot of Hawaiian words are being battered and turned into "ugly" words because of how others construe its meaning. A popular one is "haole." Now it's considered a "bad" word and people speak the word privately and in hushed tones while looking around. Auwe, what is this place turning into!?
Another thing, nothing wrong with popolo wahines! I had 2 popolo girlfriends before; 1 here and 1 on the mainland (not at the same time). All good! Mo popolo da berry, da sweeta da juice!
I like it! I'm enjoying life here and do not find probables here in the same abundance as on the mainland. I think for black women have a great opportunity to enjoy all that is offered socially here both inter racially and intra racially.
Enjoy this paradise on earth!
Interesting comment on this situation from real life...
I met a couple in the area last week at their pre-move sale. Been in rural Puna District 4 years, love it there, but they are pulling up stakes, moving to Northern Cali.
They are lovely people, open hearted and generous, and we felt comfortable with each other instantly. They are what our society calls a "mixed" couple in the sense that he has dark skin, Afro-American features, brown eyes, wears dreadlocks; while she is pale skinned, straight hair, blue eyes. Their kids are kind of an average of the two, and gorgeous.
Anyway, I was talking to him while looking at the property, and asked why they were leaving Hawai'i. And he told me that although he has worked fairly regularly in construction all along, his wife has been unable to earn much money here and the single income strain with mortgage, car payments and so on have worn them out.
His surprising comment was... "You know, it's really hard for white women here... they're pretty much on the bottom of the pile."
Is this different from your perspective? Discuss...
I like your last story. I totally disagree with the other lady regarding Black women being on the bottom. With regard to dating sites, whenever I've been on there for a MONTH ALL I receive are emails from men of other races and I do not live in Hawaii. I'll add this (I'm sure this will play into her negative outlook of herself) I am lighter skinned, but a Black woman nonetheless.
I think Hawaii would be a wonderful place to live. I've looked at so many places to maybe move to, but Hawaii always comes back to the forefront. I can ask for advice forever, but the only way I'll know is to actually move there.
I like your last story. I totally disagree with the other lady regarding Black women being on the bottom. With regard to dating sites, whenever I've been on there for a MONTH ALL I receive are emails from men of other races and I do not live in Hawaii. I'll add this (I'm sure this will play into her negative outlook of herself) I am lighter skinned, but a Black woman nonetheless.
I think Hawaii would be a wonderful place to live. I've looked at so many places to maybe move to, but Hawaii always comes back to the forefront. I can ask for advice forever, but the only way I'll know is to actually move there.
Again, I liked your story!
S
To be fair, the amount of e-mails that any woman gets on an online dating site will be very very high unless she is butt ugly :P
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A slightly different perspective
