Sex hurts

[8635angelvalley]

No mention of oral that could help you to orgasm. Have your SO do a little research first.

[soletaire]

If you dont look forward to sex with your boyfriend, or if you arent aroused by the thought of it, maybe you're just gay...?..

[Tiffins2001]

I would say he is about average. I'll also try the different lube and see how that is. Also you guys said I should relax more and stop thinking about it and just go for it. Relaxing is the key and the mind as well that is why I'm really trying to work on this as well. Maybe if do it more then I would get stretched out down there and in the long run it will help like someone said on here. Also my periods are normal or as normal as they get since I"m on the depo shot. So I still get then once in a while and that is normal for the depo. I think once it stops hurting then of course I would enjoy it more and then everything will be ok. Of course I want to have sex with my guy he is my fiancé. I want to experience sex like everyone else and experience what everyone else feels. Everyone else has fun doing it so I'm ready for when that does happen for me.

[ciceropolo]

Some reading for the both of you:
Ultimate Sex Touch (Ann Hooper)
The Ultimate Sex Book (Ann Hooper)
The Kama Sutra of Vatsayana (complete and unabridged translated by Sir Richard F Burton) it's not just about positions.

Could be physical and /or psychological, but from what you've described I'm thinking you both need to get into it mentally to understand the physical, psychological, and emotional connection you are looking to attain by the intimacy. As a few others have mentioned, experiment more with being able to relieve and release yourself. See what 'mood' environment setting works - then convey that to your partner.

[Hedgehog_Mom]

Originally Posted by Tiffins2001

I would say he is about average. I'll also try the different lube and see how that is. Also you guys said I should relax more and stop thinking about it and just go for it. Relaxing is the key and the mind as well that is why I'm really trying to work on this as well. Maybe if do it more then I would get stretched out down there and in the long run it will help like someone said on here. Also my periods are normal or as normal as they get since I"m on the depo shot. So I still get then once in a while and that is normal for the depo. I think once it stops hurting then of course I would enjoy it more and then everything will be ok. Of course I want to have sex with my guy he is my fiancé. I want to experience sex like everyone else and experience what everyone else feels. Everyone else has fun doing it so I'm ready for when that does happen for me.

For me, the lube allergy caused lots of little sores that felt like I was being ripped open, and I would bleed from it. It was a fairly basic lube we were using, I think it was walmart's generic. I already knew I was allergic to Astroglide, but we'd used the walmart lube before without a problem. What ended up working for me is silicone lube, like this: http://www.amazon.com/Juntos-Premium...ds=juntos+lube

Depo Provera can cause a loss of desire and vaginal dryness and irritation, so that might be a consideration.

I would suggest having a drink or two next time you're going to attempt sex. Get the lube thing figured out first though.

[BusyMeAK]

Don't waste money on therapy. Try another partner. This on just doesn't turn you on. It's dead dog.