I just cried but I suppose that is no different because I have frequently cried on my way to work.
I am miserable at my new job but I am in a contract which I will honor (I'm a special education teacher working with emotionally disturbed kids). If I break it, my license could be revoked and I would never ever get hired in any position within my district (one of the largest in the country). Within 3 weeks of the job I get a call from my old job which was in Hawaii saying that they could hire me back. I declined it due to my contract even though my last job before this was easy and ultimately my career goal (although I would want to end up in CA). The odds are very slim that once my contract is over that they will hire me back because positions rarely open. I know how this school district operates. The job I had in Hawaii was in a school but was less stressful with less accountability than my current one. Being a special ed. teacher takes a special person and well, I'm not that special!! I'm doing the best I can at this job but if I am able to get a position ANYWHERE like my old one for the following school year, I will do that! I don't know if any of you have experience with these kinds of kids in the context of a school but I regularly have kids spitting on me, insulting me, cussing at me, threatening me, and ever so often hitting me. Because of their disabilities I just need to get over this... I am not even allowed to defend myself if a student is being violent towards me. We are not allowed to restrain or touch a student at all. When I try to call the office for help, the students just unplug the phone so I cannot place a call! I discussed how to handle these things with administration and the support unit for my district and they just keep repeating that under no circumstances am I allowed to place a hand on a student but to just try to "calm them down" by talking to them (good strategy to have as a student is attacking you
). I'm going on a tangent now so I will move on.
I have had depression and anxiety throughout my life and the depression has just worsen since starting my job knowing I had to turn down the better job. While I hate my job it isn't that which makes me the most depressed, it's that I felt obligated to have to turn down the other job.
I have done pros and cons of the job thing.
Pros of staying in CA and teaching ED kids:
- family is local
- more money saved
- good entry into getting my foot into the door within the district (deep down I probably would have only stayed in HI until I could get the job I used to have in CA whenever possible)
- better dating "scene" (I'm 28 and in the part of Hawaii I lived in, there were slim pickings and most of the men were trashy)
- despite not liking my job, I do like my bosses
Cons of staying in CA and teaching ED kids:
- hate going into work each day
- job isn't the same position as my last one which was my ultimate career goal
- everything has to be planned
- my schedule has to be based around students who treat me as their punching bag
- I lose some of the independence that I had when I didn't know anyone in town
- location isn't as fun with going to the beach after work every other day or so, snorkeling and being in a tropical setting that always felt like I was on vacation
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I am really trying to move forward but I just cannot stop thinking about these things each day. I know I should be happy that I even have a job, I'm not disabled, not on the streets, etc but again that doesn't help. I am considering going to see a therapist for this to try to find ways to forget and to just move on. I have had therapists in the past who I did invest time in, but I didn't really see any progress when it came to anything. Only thing that was good about seeing a therapist is that I really don't have anyone to talk to since my parents don't like hearing me share my feelings on this (they tell me to move on, change the subject, or just walk away). I also don't have any friends which is by choice (I usually cut my ties with friends once I see that they really weren't reliable, loyal, trustworthy, or that I really couldn't be myself around).
I've been on Wellbutrin (150mg) since December of 2010 which has helped me a lot but the last 3 months I feel like I need a higher dosage. I exercise, eating healthy, etc.
I try to do things in life which make me happy like reading, watching movies, walking the family dogs, eating (I know...), and traveling but even when doing the things I love, my mind thinks about the decisions I made and the life I had.
Please tell me how I can move forward!!!!I keep trying to tell myself that everything happens for a reason, but so far I have yet to find that reason.