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Originally Posted by m1a1mg
Why not try meeting real people.
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This seems like a good place to jump in. Several many reasons.
First of all, often it is a case of being upfront with what you are without being in the situation where you reveal it to the world. Hence the reason for being on line when you do it. Secondly to that, on line you don't need to have all your physical shields up from making sure that no one is spiking your drink to looking around for where the fire escape is if you need to bug out.
But online one often runs into a situation where the man's description says he is in your area only to get to a point where he suddenly drops his veil and says, Yes, he lives in your town but he has been deployed and won't be back for several months.
It, the approach, has happened to me several times and by now, I am quite fed up with it and have very little patience to it. They play on one's hope, making you think that he is the one, so you are tempted, in the early days, to stay with it, keep talking to them.........but sooner or later, one realizes that he is a JERK and whatever you think might happen isn't going to happen at all.
Sometimes, it isn't some story about being deployed. I had one a few weeks ago where things were going great and then he says, "Can you give me $50 for groceries?". I might have said GOOD BYE as I dropped and blocked him.
Fate is on my side that the scams of the world are protected by being paranoid and being on the Frontier. They want to communicate in an instant off the site and in email. Well, that falls into the ball park of "Please, Sir, seduce me a little before you take my clothes off." (actually, that is my line when they want pictures immediately but it works here, too). They want to continue talking on some web site they want me to sign up for. Not going to do it because I have enough Shadow Copies of myself on the net, sites that I only used once, and I am not looking to add more. Plus, there's another element or two to it.
First, more in connection to this thread, is staying in an environment, if electronic, that is familiar to you and not letting them take you to one where the deck might be stacked, one way or another, in their favor. This philosophy may be a sound one to follow both in E Space and in the real world.
Secondly, I talk my contacts to death, over two nights at least, for two main reasons. First, to see how much in reality they actually are. When, for instance, I talk about willingness for a threesome and they immediately shift to being a Paul Snyder and seeing me as a way to make money, I know they don't have a grip and drop them. Secondly, I know I am pretty intense so I give men a night to think about it, not jerks or jerks.
They want my cell phone number. They don't believe me when I say reception sucks out on the frontier and it is probably just as well.
No money sent, no nude pictures given (is that the modern version of "he slept with me & now he doesn't call me"?), no additional comm circuits past where we met (I do use a zero security email that is used only for that).
Geeee, what a conniving world we live in....but that's the way it is.
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Jasmine Basmati
