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I know NYC is liberal. But that is based on voting demographics. We have spent a lot of time in NYC, Maine, Boston, and LA. I know we will get some reaction, but NYC just seems worse. Mainers just give looks. In LA, we get looks with the occasional black dude yelling something at me or ghetto dudes saying some ignorant crap. Boston is actually really good.
But New York, because new yorkers think they are "real" and have to tell it like it is, are by far the worst. I don't mind if they call me names. But only in NY will black guys call her racist things and be extremely mean to us, to put it lightly. Now, my girl can get pretty feisty, and nothing serious has happened. But I just would rather live somewhere that that is less common.
How about moving to a prodominantly Asian neighborhood? They won't care about black/white couples in the least. Flushing section of Queens is a good place to look.
A White guy/Black woman interracial couple are more rare and does get more flack than the reverse. My aunt (a former model) is married to a German guy and used to get stuff from black men and white women quite a bit before moving to Germany. She's a Diana Ross type woman so she's going to get some bad reactions. Personally, I don't care who dates/marries who but obviously the brothas don't like a good looking black women dating a white guy in NYC. I assume that Latino is OK but they don't like white guys dating black women in predominately black areas. Good Luck to you, but you shouldn't have a lot of problems but expect some. My wife is Italian but looks Hispanic so I don't get as many bad looks but when I had a blonde gf back in the day, I got looks from everyone..she was hot but I think the black guy/blonde female couple is what people dispise the most.
Anyways, good luck to you.
Well, that is a given. But when they say things is when I know they are not interested in watching our homemade porn.
Do you have an attitude towards other guys that they should not be looking at your gorgeous gf (if she's a stripper, I am sure she has quite a figure) and maybe the attitude you are projecting is what provokes the comments and the attitudes from them? Do you often judge your interactions with others based on whether they would or wouldn't be interested in watching your homemade porn?
When you visit NY, do you tend to be in lower socio-economic areas, versus the areas you go to when you visit Maine and Boston, etc?
I'm just trying to figure out what the dynamic is during these negative interactions you have experienced as an interracial couple here. Sorry you have had such a negative experience and I hope it goes better next time.
Well, that is a given. But when they say things is when I know they are not interested in watching our homemade porn.
Yes that is true. However, I was referring to looks, not actual words as per the full quote. If someone is making nasty comments to you all, they are ignorant and no one should be subjected to that.
Try to live in the most expensive area you can afford. The poorer the area, the more section 8 keeping it real thug/bum types you will run into and the problems that they present. This goes for the both of the couples. In Manhattan, I'd go as low as beneath 110 on the west and 96 on the east just to play it safe. Or Williamsburg, Brooklyn or LIC Queens. There are other areas but these are your safest bets. You don't want to live in jersey. The path train will make you miserable. Good luck.
It is somewhat disconcerting that in the year 2009, when today a president who is a child of a mixed race couple - white mother, black father - will be inaugurated, that we have to be here advising mixed race couples, each consisting of a man and a woman, regarding appropriate neighborhoods in which to reside.
Last edited by Moderate Guy; 01-19-2009 at 11:18 PM..
You have it easy!! I am soon to be relocating to NYC with my girlfriend of 3+ years. She is black and I am as white as it gets. She is from Brooklyn (I am from Maine), and we currently live in LA. We will be driving there and staying with her Aunt in the Bronx until we find a place.
My problem is that everywhere I go, all black men have pretty strong opinions about us. To make matters worse, she is gorgeous, and I am pretty average looking and average to smaller size, so everyone seems to think they can say what they want and get away with it. Which they can, because neither of us really care what they ignorant scumbags have to say. But I would prefer to not subject us to that more than I have to. We should be able to afford $1200 a month, preferably in a 1 bed place.
In NYC your gonna see a mix. Yes it is very liberal here, but there are also a lot of sheltered, close-minded people here. It's a mix.
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