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I think about this a lot, because I've had such a hard time making friends, and everyone just seems so "crazy busy" all the time--too busy to be friends with me. I, on the other hand, have plenty of time for friends. I'm a married woman in my early 30's (no kids). I don't consider myself "busy" at all. If I had friends, I'd probably get together with them twice a month, and call/email a few times a week. I don't have any friends b/c my husband and I moved to our current city not knowing anyone, and it's been very slow going to make friends, as everyone already seems to have their routines and social circles (and they all seem crazy busy all the time).
But I'm interested to hear how much time you make for friends as an adult. Do you get together with friends once a week? Call friends during the day? How often do you keep in contact with friends--email or phone? I'm just trying to get a sense of how much time the average adult, who has typical adult responsibilities--work, kids, etc.--has for friends.
1st, I need to clarify. You are asking how much time do I make for friends, as an adult? Or are you asking, how much adult time do I have with friends?
If it is the former I'll answer, if it's the latter...Yikes.
I make a couple nights a week. Tonight I hung out at home like a cranky hermit.
My friends always call me during the day...I guess I'm Mad Popular.
1st, I need to clarify. You are asking how much time do I make for friends, as an adult?
Yes. It seems that most women my age (early 30's) who I am trying to get to know never have time to get together. I'll ask them to have lunch and they'll be like, "how about in 5 weeks? I'm booked until then." Or, if I send a friend an email I'm lucky if I hear back from her 3 weeks later--if at all, whereas I email people back promptly. I cut people slack--I know that they're far busier than me. I'm wondering how people integrate making time for friends and nurturing relationships with all the other stuff they have to do--work, kids, chores, etc.
I think that most people today use the excuse that they are busy. People will always do what they feel is important to them. To most people, others are not important.
I think that most people today use the excuse that they are busy. People will always do what they feel is important to them. To most people, others are not important.
With three kids and a business, it's really hard to maintain many deep friendships. Too many demands on my time. So I just have to work for quality in my friendships, instead of quality. That's not to say that we don't have lots of acquaintances, or that we don't attend a lot of parties. But keeping a friendship requires time and energy, something that you don't have a lot of when you are both working and raising children.
For that one woman, I'll MAKE time--but I'm not interested in spending time with most people. And I prefer to live with that one woman.
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