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Ok, I have this neighbor who is nice, but a pest. Her kids are over all the time, which is totally fine. Today she came over after the kids went to school and was going on and on, about how I got it together and she was so envious of our life and that she never gets to do anything. How appreciative she is for me taking her kids with us on outings and sending over different food items, that I had extra, if they didn't take it I would have thrown them away, it wasn't that big of a deal. I told her thanks, but I'm not really that together and my life isn't that grand and the food was extra. She wouldn't stop, I had to secretly text my husband to call me, so I could tell her I had an important call and send her on her way.
This makes me feel awkward, and it's not the first time she has done this "weirdness".
Not to be telling her what to do, but if her and the husband didn't smoke a pack of cigs a day, each, they might be able to afford a few things. Just sayin'
Lol, I'm not going out of my way to be nice. When we go places my kids ask if her kids can come with, sure no problem. When I have extra things I ask her kids if they want to take it home, that sort of thing. I didn't think the mom would go overboard.
Longer answer: now that you realize how she is, you need to gently wean her away from your family. This includes finding some more appropriate friends for your children. Think about it. If one of your children grows up and marries the kid from next door, then this woman and her husband will be your in-laws.
I guess you should move now while there is still time.
Its hard to disengage from needy people. If I was tough enough (mean enough) I wouldn't engage with them to start with! But, now that you're "friends", you'll need to put up a wall. Start small, as you did when you cut her short with the fake emergency phone call (good one!) and move up to, "sorry I can't talk, I'm doing xxx for the kids. If I don't do laundry now, start dinner, go grocery shopping etc.. Then if she doesn't get the hint, start telling her how you sacrificed your wants i.e. cig money or booze for your kids. Hint, hint. Finally, start asking for money to pay for her kids part of the outing. "Its going to cost $8 for the movies, plus snack.Little Suzy needs to bring a dessert to the picnic". Usually moochers will move on when asked to participate.
Longer answer: now that you realize how she is, you need to gently wean her away from your family. This includes finding some more appropriate friends for your children. Think about it. If one of your children grows up and marries the kid from next door, then this woman and her husband will be your in-laws.
I guess you should move now while there is still time.
No joke!!
Just have your husband cut down one of her trees or something lol
Sounds to me like all's not well in her world, she's a little depressed and is trying to open up to you.
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