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I can do very well without that suspicious 'professional help'. My wallet says thank you.
Sure, you can live without the help - many people find a way to do that.
It's like when a bone gets broken...you don't "have" to see a doctor to reset it or cast it - it will eventually mend on its own - crooked maybe, and not as functional as it could be, but you can "live with it"
But hey, that's your choice, I just hate seeing folks choose a lesser life than they could possibly have if they'd accept some help in dealing with their issues. I just don't like to see folks choose a life of isolation and loneliness when they don't have to
Life of isolation? What does that have to do with this? I don't think my life is 'lesser' though.
Dude, you think this is going to be the last time in your life you have surgery or a medical emergency?
I mean, I hope it is for your sake. But the reality is, if you have to HIRE someone to take care of you after surgery at your young age, imagine your life of isolation at 65 or 70?
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I wasn't going to list them, but since you asked and do apparently need a clue, here is one of your "issues" - intimacy.
What is better than to hire someone that is qualified to treat me? When I (and if) I reach that age I can assure you I won't be a burden to my family members as long as I can pay for it.
And what if I have a few issues? One thing I've learned is to accept myself as I am and keep going. Besides that issue doesn't have anything to do with myself relationship with my mother. She's my mother, not a sex partner.
You are very vocal and seem to be proud of your virginity at 36, your lack of any personal relationship, the fact you have never been on a date, your extreme dislike of your father, your jealousy of your brother and this very unhealthy "relationship" with your mother and you don't think you have any issues? Really?
If lying is the best way to handle the situation so it'll be. I actually have to think about how long this 'work trip' will last until I have no outward signs of the surgery (using crutches, etc). I'll have to speak better with the doctor about that.
Unbelievable.
Just go and do whatever you want. It's obvious you never intended to follow any advice. One more thread that's just an excuse to rant about how awful someone's parents are.
You are very vocal and seem to be proud of your virginity at 36, your lack of any personal relationship, the fact you have never been on a date, your extreme dislike of your father, your jealousy of your brother and this very unhealthy "relationship" with your mother and you don't think you have any issues? Really?
What?? Where did I say that? It's not something to be proud of these days but anyway, where did I mention that I was proud of being a virgin?
Regarding my father, I've stated my reasons. I can't pretend to like a person that has never liked me in the first place.
Jealous of my brother? Care to say about what (it won't make sense but I would like to know anyway)?
Just go and do whatever you want. It's obvious you never intended to follow any advice. One more thread that's just an excuse to rant about how awful someone's parents are.
I've always said I just wanted to know what other people thought of it. I'm sure you all follow the advice of your threads...oh wait, you're perfect beings, don't need any advice.
Multiple times you talk about being a 36 year old virgin who has never been on a date or had a relationship. Just the fact that you posted so many times about this subject means you are happy to announce it and proud.
I also find multiple posts about your father wanted your brother but not you and your anger at your brother. He has married but you have not. That seems like jealousy to me.
Again I think it is sad you feel you cannot even let your family know you are having what sounds like serious surgery. We all aren't over the moon about our family of birth but I have to speak as a mother of grown children. Even if I couldn't be there to help, I would want to know what was going on. You asked, I answered. Good luck. I have nothing further to say.
You were actually the one who mentioned the virgin thing in this thread. Not me. I only mention it in my posts when it comes to relationship advice, to warn people that I'm not exactly a specialist on the matter, even though some topics are common sense. I'm not proud nor ashamed of being a virgin.
Yes my brother was the wanted child and my father never made it a secret to anyone, but since when is that my brother's fault? I get along very well with him so you know. Why should I be jealous of him being married? He's the most miserable since he married but that's another story. Why do you assume that he's happier because he's married? Most cases I know are actually the other way around.
Well, good for you for being such a great mother. But you probably give your children the space they need. Not every mother is like that.
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Originally Posted by no kudzu
Multiple times you talk about being a 36 year old virgin who has never been on a date or had a relationship. Just the fact that you posted so many times about this subject means you are happy to announce it and proud.
I also find multiple posts about your father wanted your brother but not you and your anger at your brother. He has married but you have not. That seems like jealousy to me.
Again I think it is sad you feel you cannot even let your family know you are having what sounds like serious surgery. We all aren't over the moon about our family of birth but I have to speak as a mother of grown children. Even if I couldn't be there to help, I would want to know what was going on. You asked, I answered. Good luck. I have nothing further to say.
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What does that have to do with this? I don't think my life is 'lesser' though.
