What is the best approach here? Noisy neighbor (person, personality, neighbors)

[KittenSparkles]

A new person moved into my building recently and I am fairly certain they are unaware that when they slam the door at the end of the hallway, it is extremely loud in the other units (the building is 40+ years old and a bit rickety).

I am trying to decide which approach will be the most effective to get them to stop slamming this door.

Here are the choices:

1. Tape a note to the hallway door explaining the situation

2. Put a note on the person's door welcoming them to the building, explaining the issue with the door, and leaving my name and unit number (basically a slightly more personal approach)

3. Knock on their door and tell them .

4. Wait until I see them in the building, parking lot, etc and tell them

My experience over the years is that the approach that is initially taken can have a large effect on the final outcome , so that is why I need to figure out the best way to go. I can see pros and cons for all of the above, but thought I would get some feedback from the wonderful people at C-D before proceeding.

Thanks!

[germaine2626]

Originally Posted by KittenSparkles

A new person moved into my building recently and I am fairly certain they are unaware that when they slam the door at the end of the hallway, it is extremely loud in the other units (the building is 40+ years old and a bit rickety).

I am trying to decide which approach will be the most effective to get them to stop slamming this door.

Here are the choices:

1. Tape a note to the hallway door explaining the situation

2. Put a note on the person's door welcoming them to the building, explaining the issue with the door, and leaving my name and unit number (basically a slightly more personal approach)

3. Knock on their door and tell them .

4. Wait until I see them in the building, parking lot, etc and tell them

My experience over the years is that the approach that is initially taken can have a large effect on the final outcome , so that is why I need to figure out the best way to go. I can see pros and cons for all of the above, but thought I would get some feedback from the wonderful people at C-D before proceeding.

Thanks!

If you think that you will see them fairly soon, within a week, I would do # 4. Otherwise, I would do # 3.

Also, is it possible to add some foam or something to the door so that it is always quieter?

[KittenSparkles]

Originally Posted by germaine2626

If you think that you will see them fairly soon, within a week, I would do # 4. Otherwise, I would do # 3.

Also, is it possible to add some foam or something to the door so that it is always quieter?

Thanks for the reply. What is the reason you propose #4 or #3 over the others? just curious.

I already have a foam strip in the door jamb which helps somewhat, but its still very loud. The other folks on this floor all shut doors very quietly, which is great.

[germaine2626]

Originally Posted by KittenSparkles

A new person moved into my building recently and I am fairly certain they are unaware that when they slam the door at the end of the hallway, it is extremely loud in the other units (the building is 40+ years old and a bit rickety).

I am trying to decide which approach will be the most effective to get them to stop slamming this door.

Here are the choices:

1. Tape a note to the hallway door explaining the situation

2. Put a note on the person's door welcoming them to the building, explaining the issue with the door, and leaving my name and unit number (basically a slightly more personal approach)

3. Knock on their door and tell them .

4. Wait until I see them in the building, parking lot, etc and tell them

My experience over the years is that the approach that is initially taken can have a large effect on the final outcome , so that is why I need to figure out the best way to go. I can see pros and cons for all of the above, but thought I would get some feedback from the wonderful people at C-D before proceeding.

Thanks!

Originally Posted by KittenSparkles

Thanks for the reply. What is the reason you propose #4 or #3 over the others? just curious.

I already have a foam strip in the door jamb which helps somewhat, but its still very loud. The other folks on this floor all shut doors very quietly, which is great.

If you see them in the hallway or parking lot you can say it in a more casual, personal way and also judge their reaction. Maybe they will be apologetic or maybe they will be "What the heck do I care? I can be as noisy as I want to be!" and that will help you know what to do if it continues happening. Knocking on their door is also a friendly, personal way to let them know. If you are the type to welcome new neighbors with cookies or cupcakes that would probably be the best way & time to tell them.

# 2 and #1 are more impersonal and they may get defensive or wonder why no one told them in person. But, a lot depends on your personality and how involved you want to be in the situation.

[JanND]

I'd put an anonymous note on the outside door....Do not slam doors, it disturbs other tenants, Thanks You...Mgt

[WFW&P]

The doors in our building have auto-closing hinges and some of the residents love that feature. My guess is your neighbor is aware and it doesn't bother them flinging the door closed so they won't need to exert the effort to close it gently.
My suggestion would be for everyone on your floor to put a note on the door.

[KittenSparkles]

Originally Posted by WFW&P

The doors in our building have auto-closing hinges and some of the residents love that feature. My guess is your neighbor is aware and it doesn't bother them flinging the door closed so they won't need to exert the effort to close it gently.
My suggestion would be for everyone on your floor to put a note on the door.

This door that slams has an auto-close device on the top, but since its so old, it doesn't really work. Maybe it could be fixed.

I will probably end up putting a note on the door.

Thanks!

[NY Annie]

Maybe you could ask building mgmt to repair the closer.

[angieology]

For me, I think you should tape a note first on their door then if ever you guys see each other in the hallway, you could say hello to him and tell him that you were the one who made the note. With this, they won't think it's a big deal and they won't get offended.

[virgode]

Originally Posted by NY Annie

Maybe you could ask building mgmt to repair the closer.

Above is the best remedy for the door issue.