Does a one time thing always ruin a friendship? (jealous, person, college)
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Suppose you have two friends. Both are attracted to each other but know they could never date, as it would not be a match besides the physical part of it. They get along really well, have never even fought and just enjoy being around each other.Although there is some flirting there, and the occasional joke of sex it has never quite gone there except for a quick kiss.
In your opinion, would a one time sexual encounter ruin this friendship? What should be done on both parties parts to break that sexual tension that is there? If a sexual encounter should happen, how or what would be the best way to go about doing it?
Basically I would hate to have a good friendship ruined over a 30 second orgasm, but at same time if it would not ruin the friendship be a great way to bring us closer.
How do you know it wouldn't work? If the two were friends already, there's obviously common ground. And if there's chemistry, there's something else, too. Lots of great relationships have been built on less.
I agree with the previous poster, why not try for a RELATIONSHIP with this person?
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Originally Posted by Nyc77
Basically I would hate to have a good friendship ruined over a 30 second orgasm, but at same time if it would not ruin the friendship be a great way to bring us closer.
Maybe I am cynical but I think FWB is insane and I don't see how it works unless both parties can do something that intimate without any feelings involved at all (and that is impossible for me to imagine, but maybe this generation is REALLY different from mine). I am an old fart but my students (college age) talk to me about hook-ups etc. on our campus (I teach very academic courses on sexuality, the body, etc.) and even they say "well, they don't really work" unless both parties are REALLY on the same page -- which is often NOT the case. (FWIW, the academic literature on this topic is basically in agreement with this.)
As for sex bringing friends closer -- really?!! Gee, go ahead and have sex with all your friends that you want to be closer to.
1) you decide you both want something more and become a couple
2) you're both happy with a one time thing or a casual, ongoing thing
3) one person feels more strongly about the relationship than the other, which introduces all sorts of tension into the friendship, which is likely to destroy it.
Suppose you have two friends. Both are attracted to each other but know they could never date, as it would not be a match besides the physical part of it. They get along really well, have never even fought and just enjoy being around each other.Although there is some flirting there, and the occasional joke of sex it has never quite gone there except for a quick kiss.
In your opinion, would a one time sexual encounter ruin this friendship? What should be done on both parties parts to break that sexual tension that is there? If a sexual encounter should happen, how or what would be the best way to go about doing it?
Basically I would hate to have a good friendship ruined over a 30 second orgasm, but at same time if it would not ruin the friendship be a great way to bring us closer.
Thanks
In my my experiences it does eventually ruin the friendship. Usually jealousy is the main culprit. The girl may see you with another women or you might see her with another guy. Feelings will get hurt.
In my my experiences it does eventually ruin the friendship. Usually jealousy is the main culprit. The girl may see you with another women or you might see her with another guy. Feelings will get hurt.
Dont know if it makes a difference or not, but it is two guys
Dont know if it makes a difference or not, but it is two guys
That makes no difference in my answer. I still say, if you have so much in common and have so much fun together, why not take a chance on an actual relationship?
I agree with the other posters in that you two should try for an actual relationship. No FWBs. No pseudo relationship without labels. A real one that you both agree on.
I think a slightly tipsy makeout session would be perfect. If they decided it wasn't a match, they can blame the alcohol, laugh about their encounter, and be thankful it didn't go farther. If they decide they're more seriously interested, it's a funny story for the start of their relationship.
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