Ignoring people in certain situations where nothing good can come of it (male, person)

[dave nz]

This is often my way of dealing with situations where strangers say or do something where nothing good can come of me saying something back.

Two recent examples :

In the city and three male beggers ask me for "some coins" I ignored them and kept walking.

Another time I was out and two young girls (I'm talking 16-18, I'm 34) compliment me on something I'm wearing trying to start a convo. Again I ignore them.

I don't always do this, but when I get the vibe that nothing good is going to come replying thats what I do.

Under similar circumstances do you nearly always do the same?

[MIKEETC]

Originally Posted by dave nz

This is often my way of dealing with situations where strangers say or do something where nothing good can come of me saying something back.

Two recent examples :

In the city and three male beggers ask me for "some coins" I ignored them and kept walking.

Another time I was out and two young girls (I'm talking 16-18, I'm 34) compliment me on something I'm wearing trying to start a convo. Again I ignore them.

I don't always do this, but when I get the vibe that nothing good is going to come replying thats what I do.

Under similar circumstances do you nearly always do the same?

I usually don't ignore beggars outright but I do keep the exchange short. But your lack of response to the girls is puzzling.

[what's wrong with a simple, "Thanks?"]

[dave nz]

Originally Posted by MIKEETC

I usually don't ignore beggars outright but I do keep the exchange short. But your lack of response to the girls is puzzling.

[what's wrong with a simple, "Thanks?"]

lol zero interest in girls that age. A reply of thanks might Imply otherwise.

[Hickory patrick]

this made something pop back up in my mind, I work down town Chicago, and I get off around midnight, well one night a beggar asked me for some change, I was honest, I said sorry I don't have any, Well he went off called me all sorts' of chit'' even following me as I walked ....
So next night I emptied all the change I had in my locker in to my pocket, I mean it's like 4 hand fulls..

sure enough, their he is so I make sure to head his way heading to the parking lot.. Yep, the arse hole ask, Hey you got change, emm sure I do , and I slid my hand in to my pocket and scooped it out, right on to the side walk and the lawn and I kept doing it while walking...change every where for a half block ,

O ya I forgot to tell you he was in a wheel chair......I never ran into him again, guess he changed locations.. err the bums ran him off when they found all that change laying around..

[brokencrayola]

Originally Posted by dave nz

This is often my way of dealing with situations where strangers say or do something where nothing good can come of me saying something back.

Two recent examples :

In the city and three male beggers ask me for "some coins" I ignored them and kept walking.

Another time I was out and two young girls (I'm talking 16-18, I'm 34) compliment me on something I'm wearing trying to start a convo. Again I ignore them.

I don't always do this, but when I get the vibe that nothing good is going to come replying thats what I do.

Under similar circumstances do you nearly always do the same?

If someone says something to me I respond in some way, and I have never personally had anyone simply ignore me after I said something to them.

[hawaiian by heart]

God gave us instincts, if your gut says there is something not right, get out. Its when we don't listen that we get introble.

[D. Scott]

Originally Posted by hawaiian by heart

God gave us instincts, if your gut says there is something not right, get out. Its when we don't listen that we get introble.

I agree with Hawaiian by heart. Sometimes you get a feeling that tells you to keep moving, That staying will not a have a good outcome.

[Charles]

Originally Posted by hawaiian by heart

God gave us instincts,

I doubt it. Your ancestors' experiences more likely gave you instincts. But thanks for trying to propagate your superstitions.

I also found it odd the original poster didn't at least say "Thanks" to the girls. What's the big deal?

[Marlow]

I'm a big believer in trusting your instincts, so if your instinct says to ignore a stranger, you should.

I tell my daughter that if someone is making her feel uncomfortable, not to worry about being rude--just remove herself from the situation as quickly as possible.

[wawa1992]

Being ignored is my pet peeve. Ignoring should be used only when ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. Remember the Golden Rule, "do unto others as you would have done to yourself." I know it sounds 1956, but it is the "golden" rule for a reason.