Is this tacky or is it just me? (person, appropriate, mother)
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I looked at my Facebook page the other day, which I rarely do, and saw where a friend is asking her FB buddies to please send birthday cards to her mother for her 90th birthday.
She even posts her mailing address!
I don't know. It almost feels tacky in a sense. I'm not sure how to characterize it, but it didn't seem appropriate.
What do you think? Should people request cards and gifts?
Last edited by HappyDogToday; 09-01-2014 at 01:20 AM..
Why not? I have no intention of controlling what people do. Facebook provides another avenue for people to show who they are. They are not going to suddenly turn into perfect people.
Now, as far as your question about whether or not it is tacky, my attitude is that if I think it is tacky, I wouldn't do it but I wouldn't share my opinion either.
Requesting cards I would not think of as a big deal. Maybe she thinks that her elderly mother would love getting so many cards for all you know she may be dealing with depression or some other issue and need the extra love. What harm is there in sending a $2 card to wish an elderly lady happy Birthday? She didn't ask for gifts so that is not even a question.
If you don't want to participate the don't. But also don't judge those who do. No act of kindness is tacky.
I think it's a great idea, using FB to ask folks to brighten the birthday for a 90 y/o. Now, if she was 37 or 52, I might feel different, but to celebrate 90 years .. What could be tacky with that?
Some folks on FB have 100's or 1000's of friends, but most have at least some connection with their Friends, if not knowing them personally IRL. So, many of them probably know or know of her mother already.
Don't feel obligated, but, as Shadowfax wrote, "No act of kindness is tacky"
Requesting cards I would not think of as a big deal. Maybe she thinks that her elderly mother would love getting so many cards for all you know she may be dealing with depression or some other issue and need the extra love. What harm is there in sending a $2 card to wish an elderly lady happy Birthday? She didn't ask for gifts so that is not even a question.
If you don't want to participate the don't. But also don't judge those who do. No act of kindness is tacky.
I looked at my Facebook page the other day, which I rarely do, and saw where a friend is asking her FB buddies to please send birthday cards to her mother for her 90th birthday.
She even posts her mailing address!
I don't know. It almost feels tacky in a sense. I'm not sure how to characterize it, but it didn't seem appropriate.
What do you think? Should people request cards and gifts?
In a way of human thinking there is no tacky and there is no inappropriate activity. Her or his mother is filling 90 years, and it is something special for her/him and it is always a sentimental value. If you like you can send a card and bless her another healthy year Other wise leave it. But don't judge, asking every one to send card is not asking for a gift so nothing to say about it, for a card cost almost nothing may be a little with postage but still aren't we wasting money at all? If I were you I would send a beautiful card with a good wish for another healthy year! but that is me.
Nothing tacky about it! She made an upfront request to her supposed FRIENDS! I love sharing special events with my friends. Why wouldn't I want to participate and make this a special birthday for a friend's mom?
If I didn't feel close enough to this friend (or her mom) to participate, then I wouldn't. But I certainly would not feel the request was tacky.
I think it is very sweet.
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I think it's a great idea, using FB to ask folks to brighten the birthday for a 90 y/o. Now, if she was 37 or 52, I might feel different, but to celebrate 90 years .. What could be tacky with that?
