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Being happy riding bikes everywhere with my dog running side of me, going cardboard sliding, we had a treefort it was so cool, buying penny & nickel candy, Saturday morning cartoons, getting a great toy in the cereal box, saving my allowance to buy records & comic books, just having a fun time being a kid
We weren't dirt-poor, but by no means wealthy! My Dad worked a stable job (Post Office); my Mom was a stay-at-home mom. Three children (I'm the baby), all that changed when my Mom passed away suddenly when I was 8 (early '70's). A couple years later I was placed in a residential facility for children. Up until then, My childhood was fine, but I saw so much abuse at that place that today, it would have been shut down and many staff would be in jail! It took the better part of three years for me to rebuild my young life...I even wrote a book about it.
I remember one happy event - my extremely unathletic brother hit the winning ball in a Little League game. Only memory of both my parent being happy, laughing Both brother/I were kinda duds. Wonder if that kinda joy is constant in homes with "successful" kids/proud parents?
I was physically abused and brainwashed with religion. I witnessed my worthless father beat up my mother several times and I still get flashbacks from that. She should have left the jerk and raised my brother and I on her own.
Not a "fun thread" for me so I'm bowing out. My childhood was a disaster.
Split-households, fighting, A father and "step-mother" I couldn't stand to be around. A lot of time spent by myself. There were some good moments, though.
I remember one happy event - my extremely unathletic brother hit the winning ball in a Little League game. Only memory of both my parent being happy, laughing Both brother/I were kinda duds. Wonder if that kinda joy is constant in homes with "successful" kids/proud parents?
Not to toot my own horn, but I was very successful in school and life. I did many things no one in my family had ever achieved and I am still treated poorly by my family. Same for my husband and his family. In both our cases, our best was never THE best. Yest any little toe we put out of line, was scolded even it was truly an accident. In my case, I was punished often for my sister's misdeeds. "She's younger, why would you let her do X?" when I had no idea where she was or what she was doing. My sister got a big party for high school graduation and when I got my MA, I actually remember a friend's family toasting me too at her graduation party. Her father looking at me in disbelief when he got that my mom didn't care I was college educated and I wasn't just being dramatic. My mother was physically abused her whole life. When she had children, she wasn't prepared and I think she felt anything that was hitting wasn't abuse.
In some families, there's just favorites. I think the baby or the "lovable loser" is usually mommy or daddy's favorite. They're just like a full grown baby.
I think one shouldn't have children if they're not ready for it emotionally and mentally. As much as I love my children, they're not assets. Children are mainly a loss physically. There's time and money I put in. I feel I have gotten rewarded for it emotionally. If you're looking at them to fill some void you have, it will probably just make things worse. Or if you're looking for money, you will probably never make it back unless your children are millionaires. I've put in tens of thousands of dollars in private child care, a nanny, because I didn't want my children in daycare. My reward is children who are healthier than children who went to daycare as infants. I can see if you didn't think it through, you could think "I put in 20,000 in daycare. Let's see what my retirement home looks like". While I do think this is a wrong outlook and not one I have, I understand. Humans are mostly shallow and selfish. I'd also like, and hope, to think, every generation gets a little better. You know if your family was beating you every day, maybe you hit your kids once a week, and your kids never hit your grandkids and so on. Sorry this is so long. Such a shame you can't pick the people you spend your formative years with...
Being happy riding bikes everywhere with my dog running side of me, going cardboard sliding, we had a treefort it was so cool, buying penny & nickel candy, Saturday morning cartoons, getting a great toy in the cereal box, saving my allowance to buy records & comic books, just having a fun time being a kid
awww, that is a happy one, every kid should have a dog....
I used to collect china horses.
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riding bikes everywhere with my dog running side of me, going cardboard sliding, we had a treefort it was so cool, buying penny & nickel candy, Saturday morning cartoons, getting a great toy in the cereal box, saving my allowance to buy records & comic books, just having a fun time being a kid
