Would you rather live alone or with a roommate? (person, house, college)
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I am a 32 year old man who currently lives alone in a one bedroom apartment. One of my new friends, who is studying abroad (he's from Japan) is asking me if I want to get a 2 bedroom with him because things are not working out with his current roommate, who doesn't seem to pay his share on time.
Anyway, I don't know him that well, but we have a lot of common interests. One of them being that he is an aspiring filmmaker, having actually won quite a few competitions lately and I am a musician who is hoping to start working on soundtracks soon. I think we are compatible in that sense, so I could maybe see myself living with him.
However, I love living alone and Im not sure if I want to leave my apartment just yet, but he needs an answer by the end of this month.
It would definitely help from a financial standpoint, seeing how I am currently being harassed at my job and looking for a new one. It would be a bit of a stress relief to know that I don't have to pay as much a month.
I use to live with a gf a few years ago, and while that situation was obviously different, it is safe to say that I love living alone lol. And I love my balcony...its so awesome, i dont know if I wanna leave yet.
But I am worried that he will be disappointed if I say no, and he is such a good person to know as far the independent film industry goes.
What should I do to help me decide? Am I too old to live with a roommate? I know that's kind of a ridiculous question, but would this be considered a step down?
if you want some financial relief, you may go for it. If you don't want to though, just tell the guy, that you cannot get away from your current lease, that's it.
I decided never to live with a roommate after I left college. I wouldn't mind staying in a tiny studio apartment to save money but I will never live with roommates again. One of the main reasons is the type of people who have access to your home. Living with another person takes away that control from you. We become set in our ways as we get older & unless its your family, you wont be so willing to compromise with strangers. Not saying you cant overcome that, but I would never go back living in that situation again.
But I am worried that he will be disappointed if I say no, and he is such a good person to know as far the independent film industry goes.
Worry about YOU, not him. You cannot make big decisions based on other people's feelings.
I like living alone too much frankly. But I know myself really well. I also do not like giving up some control to another, which is what would happen with a non-romantic other sharing a living space. And some ppl arent as nice as they seem, which you wont see until you live with them.
You two can hang out all you want if you think it would be good to partner with him creatively. Often though, if I am content in a situation I do not like to take risks. I've had bad roommates and been trapped legally. I hated that. I have horror stories; I just wont risk it again esp. now that I am a "grown up" and all.
Don't worry about what he will think. If he would throw a cold shoulder your way over this, you probably wouldn't want to work with him anyway.
When he's out of the equation in your decision, it's saving $$$ vs. staying in a place you like.
I prefer living alone, and it sounds like you do too. Just don't worry about what he will think, and if you decide to stay in your current situation just tell him ASAP so he can make other arrangements.
I'd always prefer to live alone instead of with a roommate. The exception, of course, is my husband. He's the only "roommate" I've ever had that didn't drive me totally crazy.
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