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Are you in a relationship? It sounds as if you're friends and you want to be more. He doesn't. My friends don't tell me where and when they are going all the time. I think you have unrealistic expectations.
Yesterday, he told me that he's out of state at a wedding and has been since Wednesday, so he hasnt been available as much. I said that he should have told me. His response was "I just did". Yeah, after the fact. I didnt want to be argumentative or make a fuss because I already made a big deal about that before, that I dont like when he doesnt tell me important things until after the fact. Things I see as important that he should tell me about, he doesnt see as important. When he does tell me, its because I ask and is after the fact.
He was trying to reach me since Thursday, but that was past my bedtime (usually 930/10pm), never did he mention hes away. I responded to him Friday that hes only been available after my bedtime. If I had known he was traveling and at an important family event, his cousin's wedding, then I wouldnt have been left to speculate on why he was unavailable.
And hes stubborn.
Why are we even friends if hes not telling me whats going on in his life, and then doesnt think that he should?
Uh, wait, ok, so this guy is a FRIEND? And you are getting this worked up over this?
What kind of person considers themself to be in a relationship, but blows off contact made 'after bedtime'?
The kind that has a job. I didnt "blow it off," he knows by what time Im in bed. In none of the messages he left me on thursday and friday night way after 11pm did he say he was gone so whats the compelling reason to stay up waiting to talk to a guy who, as far as I knew at the time, didnt want to actually spend time with me? This is why its better if Id known. He disappeared and didnt like me anymore as far as I knew, because I was left unknown and to speculate why he was unavailable.
If I had known he was going to be only available that time of night (usually we talk earlier in the evening and during lunch) due to traveling and a major family event, Id had made effort to stay up later.
Are you in a relationship? It sounds as if you're friends and you want to be more. He doesn't. My friends don't tell me where and when they are going all the time. I think you have unrealistic expectations.
Not according to CD, apparently, but yes we are and hes the one that jumped to relationship first when I still considered us to be friends.
I dont need to know his whereabouts at all times and he doesnt need to know mine. But I think its a big deal to not slip me a note, a pigeon, smoke signal, something, saying "oh yeah Im going for a 12 hour drive to this other state for my cousin's wedding for the next 5 days," especially when we talk every day and its never so much as uttered. I mean wtf. Its bothering me.
It is common for a couple in a relationship to attend family weddings together. Perhaps he thought if he had mentioned it beforehand, you would have been miffed that you weren't invited to attend as his date.
Being in a relationship means different things to different people. However, the two people who are in the relationship should be on the same page with what that relationship entails. From reading some of your other posts about this guy, y'all aren't on the same page. You may even be in a different book.
Perhaps he thought if he had mentioned it beforehand, you would have been miffed that you weren't invited to attend as his date.
This was my thought as well. If its a new relationship, he's probably not ready to have you meet his entire extended family. Instead of having you get upset about not being his date, he simply decided to not mention it.
The OP thought the guy didn't like her anymore because they went two days without talking (even though he did call and leave messages). So yeah, he probably wanted wanted to just avoid having an argument over it and having to reassure OP that she is liked.
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