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Because they were talking about driving in and a lot of them seem to know each other. kind of annoying because they're not really making an effort to speak to anyone else but each other, I find it really hard to approach them anyway because they get into a group in class.
I can't stand it when people already know each other.
You realize you have a huge chip on your shoulder, right? You are creating most of your own problems because of the attitude you have.
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It's not really a chip though is it? If the people already know each other then they probably aren't going to make an effort to speak to anyone else; which they haven't.
It's not really a chip though is it? If the people already know each other then they probably aren't going to make an effort to speak to anyone else; which they haven't.
Its hard to talk to you because no matter what is said, its turned around to make you the victim.
It's not really a chip though is it? If the people already know each other then they probably aren't going to make an effort to speak to anyone else; which they haven't.
Ya, it is. It's the definition of "chip on your shoulder." You have deep and aggressive (but unexpressed!) resentment based on a sense of inferiority.
You walk into every situation EXPECTING one thing and then getting incredibly offended when things don't go the way you expect them to.
I imagine your body language reflects this. You need to stop blaming others for stuff they haven't even done and seriously address your insecurity.
"When people tie their feelings of frustration to the expectation that someone is obliged to satisfy them, victimized, paranoid feelings inevitably arise."
I'm in the lecture and it's the same people sitting in the same group again
When there is a break in the lecture, go over to the group, introduce yourself and start a conversation. And let go of the negative expectations of how they may react because those are what will cause you to fail.
I keep seeing a few people who are always sitting on their own. I might sit beside them the next time!
Nice. Be friendly, knowing that it takes time and patience to find FRIENDS.
You've only been there a couple weeks. Try to relax.
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kind of annoying because they're not really making an effort to speak to anyone else but each other, I find it really hard to approach them anyway because they get into a group in class.
Be friendly, knowing that it takes time and patience to find FRIENDS.
