Should I be upset?

[Haolejohn]

Originally Posted by minnesota nice

But back to this, I am not sure if I can consider her a friend again but maybe a good acquaintance.
Someone above raised an issue between [b]honesty > = < Loyalty?
Which is more important? I don't know.

Seriously? You don't know? Honesty is more important than loyalty. I'd rather have a honest friend than a lying loyal friend.

[city living]

Originally Posted by minnesota nice

I try to be more understanding of American people and the way people do things here because there are some major differences in the way people treat each other here. People sometimes mistreat each other but after that, they can still be friends after apologizing. That's not something you'd do back home because the society where I originate from, we hold grudges for much longer. As a result, I usually give American people the benefit of the doubt. I am still adjusting to the cultural differences.
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You must be missing most of the posts that don't agree with me.

There are PLENTY of people in this lovely country who will hold grudges FOREVER. I would not call forgiveness an aspect of the American culture---it's highly individualistic here.

I am speaking from the point of view that I KNOW there have been times where I have not been the best friend or person. But I am also speaking as a person who learned that in retrospect---I never intentionally tried to hurt my friends but many times I had a disconnect with people socially, that caused me to say and do some stupid things. People had to point things out to me because of that social deficiency---I was blatantly unaware. Live and learn.

And there are definitely people I wouldn't forgive based on what they have done. But you have to do something awful---I'm not talking petty, BS nonsense.