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Then you have spoken. That's your decision and that should be the end of it. Your mother; your life; your relationship.
But you did ask if you were right or wrong, and I am saying that staying in a relationship with a parent carries with it a certain amount of responsibility. It's not like she is trying to move in with you.
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Not true at all. It is not a child's responsibility to put up with the dysfunctional behavior of a parent.
Well, I had a heart to heart talk with my mother this week. Thankfully, it seems to have chilled down. She hasn't called me in the last few days and seems to have gotten the message from a couple of texts she sent me. I don't think their divorce will be that ugly since they don't live in the same state and they don't have commingled assets. I will serve as an interested bystander to all this and, again, will only get involved if there is an imminent threat to my mother.
Good for you. Now, if you could only do the same thing and set your boundaries around her prying into your relationship life.
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Thanks for updating us. I hope the divorce process goes smoothly and your mother is able to move on.
Well it looks like this whole drama is just about over. The paperwork is just about finished and mom has been okay about not revealing unnecessary details about their drama. I'm just relieved that I'm out of this mess.
Well it looks like this whole drama is just about over. The paperwork is just about finished and mom has been okay about not revealing unnecessary details about their drama. I'm just relieved that I'm out of this mess.
Good grief. If I recall correctly, at one point you were glad she appeared to have finally found a stable man, after several misfires, no? Can't say I blame you for putting miles between your mom and yourself, literally and figuratively.
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Good grief. If I recall correctly, at one point you were glad she appeared to have finally found a stable man, after several misfires, no? Can't say I blame you for putting miles between your mom and yourself, literally and figuratively.
Yes, that thread was me. It sucks, just two people matched up that could not get out of their own way. I think it may be best if she calls it a day on the romance department.
Yes, that thread was me. It sucks, just two people matched up that could not get out of their own way. I think it may be best if she calls it a day on the romance department.
Excuse me? I just suck at getting dates. My mother makes too many emotional decisions when choosing mates.
Yet you want your mother to Not Date, just like you...
she wiped your butt when you couldn't. The woman is entitled to drive her life however she wants without advice from a Whippersnapper who hasn't even BEEN in a relationship.
Its like me instructing Brad Pitt how to act. I don't KNOW how to act, so I wont instruct him.
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Yet you want your mother to Not Date, just like you...
she wiped your butt when you couldn't. The woman is entitled to drive her life however she wants without advice from a Whippersnapper who hasn't even BEEN in a relationship.
Its like me instructing Brad Pitt how to act. I don't KNOW how to act, so I wont instruct him.
I'm only repeating her sentiments on the matter. She seems like she is done with dating and romance and I don't blame her since she cannot seem to make solid choices.
She can drive her life however she pleases but I have a right to have an opinion on her choices, especially after she tried to get me involved in this poor choice.
this means you don't have Opinions, nor do you share them with the affected parties.
You are not staying neutral !!!!
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down. She hasn't called me in the last few days and seems to have gotten the message from a couple of texts she sent me. I don't think their divorce will be that ugly since they don't live in the same state and they don't have commingled assets. I will serve as an interested bystander to all this and, again, will only get involved if there is an imminent threat to my mother.
