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OP, since your question is actually about whether you should address your brief hesitation when she told you the date (and not what so many others are implying), I agree with the one poster who said that it's actually very possible that she didn't even notice your pause. If she didn't bring it up and/or if you didn't notice anything in her body language that indicated that she was affected by your pause then I don't think she even noticed.
A birthday is just another day. I watch people at work take days off for their birthday? I look at the situation from a confused standpoint, I mean if you were traveling and going a vacation for your bday, cool! Those that just take it off to sit at home I don't understand it.
I sometimes take my birthday off, if my workload allows it. I usually don't spend it sitting at home though. Sometimes I'll make an appointment at a day spa ... if the weather is nice, I might enjoy a day at the park ... it might even be something as simple as enjoying a quiet day at the library. A day of relaxation is my gift to myself. Nothing wrong with that.
Too late now but that is what I would have done. It's a non issue at this time. I highly doubt she has a problem with any hesitation on your part. That would be so petty.
I still think the OP needs to begin enacting a birth month approach. Why settle for one day when you can have 30 days of fun? If you have a birth month, unusual or weird things that happen on the exact birth day don't mean much, if anything, to you - heck, you won't even pause awkwardly!
I think that is even stranger than making a big deal out of a certain day. It is only a birthday. After 21 and before 80 they don't mean much to most people.
I sometimes take my birthday off, if my workload allows it. I usually don't spend it sitting at home though. Sometimes I'll make an appointment at a day spa ... if the weather is nice, I might enjoy a day at the park ... it might even be something as simple as enjoying a quiet day at the library. A day of relaxation is my gift to myself. Nothing wrong with that.
Those are things you can do any day of the year. I would do them when I wanted to and not wait for a certain day.
I still think the OP needs to begin enacting a birth month approach. Why settle for one day when you can have 30 days of fun? If you have a birth month, unusual or weird things that happen on the exact birth day don't mean much, if anything, to you - heck, you won't even pause awkwardly!
I really sincerely do hope that you do this just in harmless fun. There was a woman who used to work in another department at my office, and she made a HUGE deal about her birth month -- ALL. MONTH. LONG. She came across to me as horrifically self-absorbed and extremely high maintenance. I didn't wish her a happy birthday. In fact, I avoided her entire department for that entire month.
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I agree, and I should have written the OP better But I can't change it now. I didn't want all this.
Yeah, sometimes the words just don't quite come out right. I wouldn't worry about it. I highly doubt that your friend noticed anything amiss, so bringing it up now would serve no purpose but to make her uncomfortable.
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Pretend the wedding cake is a birthday cake, and enjoy. :-) My birthday was the day before my brother's wedding. As far as I was concerned, it was a non-event, because I was excited about my brother's wedding. I was very, very touched when, at the rehearsal dinner, my brother and my soon-to-be sister-in-law had a cake brought out and everyone sang happy birthday to me.
The exact same thing happened to me, except it was a good friend getting married instead of my brother. I was in the wedding party, and the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding was on my birthday. I said nothing to her about it at all, at any time, and happily went to the dinner. I was taken totally by surprise, and greatly touched, when she rolled out a cake for me and sang happy birthday.
Those are things you can do any day of the year. I would do them when I wanted to and not wait for a certain day.
Sure. I can do them any day of the year. That includes my birthday. I'd much rather be relaxing on my birthday than slogging away at work.
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But I can't change it now. I didn't want all this.
