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The family all offered to help the parents said no they wanted him to learn a lesson. But I would feel like if I had the money I would bail my child out at least the first time. If you keep getting arrested then no. At least give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe because I don't feel like 20$ bag of pot = drug dealing and getting 4 months. Its only a ticket in nyc.
I probably wouldn't talk to my family either if you didn't believe me.
I think that $500 bail is very low and it was expected by the court that he would be bailed out. I would not have let a child or other young relative who was a basically good person go to Rikers over a $20 bag of grass. In doing so, it seems these parents have caused their son much more harm than a little grass would have caused. I know they meant well, but they appear somewhat clueless.
He didn't go to Rikers because of a $20 bag of grass. That was the first time he was caught. His parents have not caused him harm. He did that all by himself.
Now, could I have been as strong as they were? Doubtful. But that doesn't mean I think they were wrong.
I think that $500 bail is very low and it was expected by the court that he would be bailed out. I would not have let a child or other young relative who was a basically good person go to Rikers over a $20 bag of grass. In doing so, it seems these parents have caused their son much more harm than a little grass would have caused. I know they meant well, but they appear somewhat clueless.
They are very strict type of people. I literally could care less about weed but I know many people do. If something happen to him they would of felt terrible.
I think we had a case of a kid who was in rikers for 3 years (which I didn't even know they could keep you that long). Anyway he died and his bail was around 1,000 for stealing a book bag and the mom wants to cry on tv and sue.
You didn't bail this kid out? Why not? I'd have a bailed a kid I wasn't even related to, rather than let him sit in jail for 4 months.
Would these same parents bail for minor in possession of alcohol?
He didn't go to Rikers because of a $20 bag of grass. That was the first time he was caught. His parents have not caused him harm. He did that all by himself.
Now, could I have been as strong as they were? Doubtful. But that doesn't mean I think they were wrong.
The whole case was dismissed he wasn't guilty of anything. His parents assumed because they had found weed previously that it must be true. But many kids smoke weed they are not criminals.
You didn't bail this kid out? Why not? I'd have a bailed a kid I wasn't even related to, rather than let him sit in jail for 4 months.
Would these same parents bail for minor in possession of alcohol?
We all could of parents were adamant they didn't want anyone to bail him out.
The whole case was dismissed he wasn't guilty of anything. His parents assumed because they had found weed previously that it must be true. But many kids smoke weed they are not criminals.
He wasn't "found" guilty. There are several reasons why cases are dismissed, and guilt isn't necessarily part of the equation. His parents believed the charges (smoking pot? You made it sound more like dealing.) were likely legitimate, and I'm sure they know their son far better than any poster here does.
It's one thing to let your kid sit in the drunk tank overnight, or even spend a week in jail to "learn a lesson" but I can't fathom why parents would let their son who is in high school and headed to college sit in prison for 4 months when he was innocent.
If I was this kid, it wouldn't be what happened at rikers that hurt me the most, it'd be the actions of my parents having no faith in me. That's a horrible feeling.
The whole case was dismissed he wasn't guilty of anything. His parents assumed because they had found weed previously that it must be true. But many kids smoke weed they are not criminals.
It's against the law in New York to possess and smoke weed, right? When they violate the law what are they then?
Too many people excuse this kind of behavior thinking they shouldn't have consequences when they violate the law. Why shouldn't parents let a kid face the natural consequences of their actions, especially when they know it's not the first time their child has violated the rules or the law?
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I think the parents were entitled to do what they thought was best. In this case, it was to not bail their kid out.
The kid is entitled to react to this/treat his parents however he wants, in this case, he's decided to cut ties. Quite frankly, I'm with the kid on this one. At the scariest time in his life, his parents ignored him. For 4 months. At Rikers. Wow.
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