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My mom is a very cold person. She is very emotionally unstable. She thinks crying is a sign of weakness and if she sees me upset she is not the type to talk to me about it or comfort me. She snaps at every little thing and it's making me miserable. My sister's don't understand what I go through with her because they don't live at home and see how she really is. Another one of the big reasons why my relationship with all of them is messed up.
I have known half a dozen people who moved out after high school because their home life was intolerable. They did WHATEVER they had to do to support themselves and be independent. If someone can do it at 18, you can at 30.
While I was in college, and till I moved out at 23, my parents insisted I pay rent and my share of expenses. As a wedding present, they gave me a check for the total amount I had paid them! They wanted me to learn some responsibility, and I did.
While I know rent is skyrocketing, (as it's going up even in smaller cities and not just coastal places), do you have an option to get a place with roommates? Maybe with some people from school? As another thread on here has indicated, there is no such age limit to living with roommates, especially with rent being as high as it is.
The alternative is do a switch as someone else suggested of working full time and going to school part time. You might take longer to finish school, but at least you'll be able to get out of the situation you're in.
I only have FOUR more classes left until I graduate. Going part time is unnecessary in this case. I am going to see my school therapist once the term is over which will be soon. Right now I am just keeping my distance from my family. I just can't stand any of them anymore. Im sick of always looking like the bad guy and getting treated like ****.
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Again, why has it taken you so long to finish school?
Since she sees a school therapist, it is easy to assume she has 'issues'. Since fruit doesn't fall far from the proverbial tree - having 'issues' may be a learned behavior from childhood.
At any rate - having issues can slow someone down. Dysfunction in a family can slow people down. Genuine illness - even asthma - can set people back in life. Perhaps, like many people with issues or without issues, she simply didn't know what she wanted to do for the rest of her life until she got older.
At any rate - is any sage-like advice dependent on intimate details?
I honestly think your relationship with your family will vastly improve once you manage to move out. I would work on that ASAP after you graduate, and it seems like you're planning that. My boyfriend went through something vaguely similar. He has three siblings and he lived with his older sister for a while. They fought all the time and he moved out to live with me in another state. He was bitter toward her for some time but the distance helped and now they are close (ish) again. His sister also lived with his other brother and the brother had to move out too because of her. Some family members just can't live together when they get past a certain age.
So I caution against cutting them off right away because I bet you will see a difference when you move out.
At any rate - is any sage-like advice dependent on intimate details?
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Originally Posted by Dianabanana123
I started college when I was 25
Also, she isn't seeing a therapist yet.
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