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No. It's like being forced to sit at the children's table during Thanksgiving despite not being a child. Then again, most of this is my fault. If I go to a party someone's parents are hosting, I can't expect much.
No one treated you like a child by inviting you to a party. No one needs to get fired because they went to a party. What the heck? Did going to this party somehow cause you to show up hungover or cost you so much money you couldn't pay your utility bill?
Lighten up. 22 years old is the perfect time to be balancing adult responsibility and weekend fun.
Good Lord, so is 62. (I'm 62, just getting in from a night out. It's 2 a.m.)
After I graduated out of college, my parents only worried if I have a job interview or not. Fortunately I graduated in the 90s when jobs were plenty. I had a bigger party after I nailed down my 1st job.
It sounds like you and your friend are at very different places in your life right now. Your friend felt like you didn't support him in the way he wanted; you feel like he behaved childishly. I was never much of a partier, even at 21 when I graduated college. I was always pretty responsible. Most of my friends were similar to me, so we were a good match. It seems that your friend and you have grown apart. In five more years, you may grow closer to one another again. Life is all about the ebb and flow.
This is true, and very politely stated.
Stella needs to realize that her way isn't "right" and his way isn't "wrong." There is nothing wrong with graduating at 22, having a party, and not having to be up early the next day. Very few people graduate and have "real" jobs any younger than 22.
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Originally Posted by stellastar2345
You know people who are expected to work at 1,2 ,or 3 am and are still expected to be in at 7?
We threw a Pizza party for our son when he graduated. One reason was we are VERY proud that he stayed with it and made it through, especially given that he's a textbook definition of Aspergers Syndrome. He's currently in the middle of his SECOND degree and we'll probably throw him another party then.
He had about 15 friends over as well as some of their parents and our friends (he HAS FRIENDS!!!). I fired up my Pizza oven and they partied until about 2am playing some card game.
Granted, the adults all left by 9pm and we went to bed but they had a ball.
I see nothing wrong with it as your child has completed something that was not required by any law like grade school is and is something that's a major life hurdle for many or an impossible dream for some.
You know people who are expected to work at 1,2 ,or 3 am and are still expected to be in at 7?
Sure. Not everyone works for a large corporation where an entire team is available to pick up and keep things going while someone sleeps. Small business owners, teachers and SAHPs come to mind.
There are times when responsible adults get minimal sleep and are still expected to be at work on time. Projects on deadline, grading papers, sick children. All of those happen. It's life.
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Actually, they did send a delegate to call him upstairs. I literally felt like I was back celebrating a high school graduation. Shouldn't one be a bit more of an adult at 22? He isn't "junior" anymore.
Well, not sure either what your point is....Venting, or simply realizing that you've outgrown your friend. It doesn't sound like his invited friends are also your friends.
Might just be time to invest your friendship with those that meet your standards of maturity.
Don't you love it when people post because they want everyone else to agree with them?
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). I fired up my Pizza oven and they partied until about 2am playing some card game. 
