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We had to limit our son's interactions with this kid, and wouldn't let our son go out with him
I agree with this choice. But I dearly hope that you very carefully explained WHY you were limiting your son's interaction with this guy. We all can serve as examples to others: some what to do, others what not to do. This guy's poor choices, and the consequences that result from them, present excellent teachable moments for your son.
Your son sees first hand what happens if people are irresponsible and maybe he takes that as a motivation to NOT be like that. He is going to see that friend struggle with money because of his poor choices and maybe your son tries to do his best to never bee in this position.
I agree, I think people should have faith in their kids sometimes. They are a lot smarter than a lot of older people give them credit for.
OP, your son is way above the age where he is capable of learning from others' mistakes.
OP, don't blame you for venting. It's frustrating to see kids make stupid mistakes, and know you can't really do anything about it.
Kids will do what they want. They're masters at sneaking to do what they want, even with the most vigilant of parents. Don't you remember doing it yourself? LOL.
I do appreciate that you said the boy got the girl pregnant, instead of saying the girl got herself knocked up. As if a girl could do that by herself :-)
You don't have to condone his choices. But if you could find it in your heart to feel a little compassion....to not be so outraged and judgmental.....it would be good for you. Yes, the boy is responsible for all his choices. But for you to be so outraged....that will eat at you. It's not healthy.
If the OP didn't care she wouldn't care enough to be frustrated on a kid constantly making poor choices.
Okay, I hope you feel better venting about someone who is involved in making choices for his own life that is none of your business. One should only judge oneself and make changes until perfection is reached before being the judge for someone else.
Honestly, no parent knows exactly what their own child is involved with unless they spend every moment of every day with that child.
It is the OP's business if her son is friends with this kid. This "friend" obviously has a long way to go before growing up and as a mother I would definitely limit, if not ban my son from hanging out with this kid. I mean really, he just has a baby and he's more worried about wrestling? If he still wanted to act like a high school kid then he should have thought about that before getting a girl pregnant!
My son's 'friend' got his girlfriend pregnant while a junior in HS. (She was already graduated and kicked out of her house). We had watched this kid spiral out of control for a year or so from a previously good character. He was obsessed with being 'cool'. We had to limit our son's interactions with this kid, and wouldn't let our son go out with him- he was doing burnouts and drag racing, etc. He was fired from the restaurant he worked at for giving alcohol to a minor. This year, as a senior, my son is in a college class with him. My son works hard and takes his time, while this friend doesn't give a damn. The baby was born 2 days ago..but last night he had to go to a wrestling meet while she was still in hospital. This guy is just bugging me!! Grow up! He gets NO sympathy from us as his life is a result of poor choices. I watch the careless attitude and think of how stupid a person can be. I would have thought he would straightened out by now but I guess not.
He's not your child so he's not your problem. His life is none of your business. He's a teenager. Sounds like a typical teen. Yes, a girl got pregnant, but he didn't do that all on his own. It takes 2 to tango. Why would you expect a high schooler - who's a kid himself - to stick around with the baby and the mom? Join us in the real world. Again, he's not your problem. You're spending far too much time worrying about him and his life.
It is the OP's business if her son is friends with this kid. This "friend" obviously has a long way to go before growing up and as a mother I would definitely limit, if not ban my son from hanging out with this kid. I mean really, he just has a baby and he's more worried about wrestling? If he still wanted to act like a high school kid then he should have thought about that before getting a girl pregnant!
He didn't get her pregnant on his own. It took both of them! She could have taken numerous precautions as could he.
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