Just need to vent.... (girlfriend, person, children, senior)
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My son's 'friend' got his girlfriend pregnant while a junior in HS. (She was already graduated and kicked out of her house). We had watched this kid spiral out of control for a year or so from a previously good character. He was obsessed with being 'cool'. We had to limit our son's interactions with this kid, and wouldn't let our son go out with him- he was doing burnouts and drag racing, etc. He was fired from the restaurant he worked at for giving alcohol to a minor. This year, as a senior, my son is in a college class with him. My son works hard and takes his time, while this friend doesn't give a damn. The baby was born 2 days ago..but last night he had to go to a wrestling meet while she was still in hospital. This guy is just bugging me!! Grow up! He gets NO sympathy from us as his life is a result of poor choices. I watch the careless attitude and think of how stupid a person can be. I would have thought he would straightened out by now but I guess not.
Okay, I hope you feel better venting about someone who is involved in making choices for his own life that is none of your business. One should only judge oneself and make changes until perfection is reached before being the judge for someone else.
Honestly, no parent knows exactly what their own child is involved with unless they spend every moment of every day with that child.
Okay, I hope you feel better venting about someone who is involved in making choices for his own life that is none of your business. One should only judge oneself and make changes until perfection is reached before being the judge for someone else. Honestly, no parent knows exactly what their own child is involved with unless they spend every moment of every day with that child.
That is what my friends discovered when their son, a sophomore in HS, got his girl friend pregnant.
Apparently, he was sneaking out his bedroom window at night after his parents were asleep and going over to his GFs house for a couple hours of sex (& a little drinking) in the middle of the night (her mom worked third shift). This had been going on for months and his parents had absolutely no idea. They had really tried to keep him away from "bad influences" and it turned out that he was a "bad influence", too.
So, while you think that you know your own children, maybe you don't.
You just need to keep promoting better choices to your son, and hope that he makes them. I feel bad for all 3 of the other kids involved, it sounds like the two that are the parents need some parents of their own, and now their poor baby is thrown into the mix.
Your son sees first hand what happens if people are irresponsible and maybe he takes that as a motivation to NOT be like that. He is going to see that friend struggle with money because of his poor choices and maybe your son tries to do his best to never bee in this position.
Your son sees first hand what happens if people are irresponsible and maybe he takes that as a motivation to NOT be like that. He is going to see that friend struggle with money because of his poor choices and maybe your son tries to do his best to never bee in this position.
You know, not bad advice. I had a lot of friends who made bad decisions (even to have 2 kids before 18) and my mom never got involved. I didn't go down the path they did, I just really learned from them. I grew up to live a *very* different life then those friends and made a lot of my choices based on their mistakes.
Like having a baby early and being unwed. I saw how 1) you have a baby with a guy, you are stuck with him for a really long time...you better REALLY like him. 2) You have a baby by yourself...you really are by yourself. It isn't a judgement call but it seemed like a really hard thing and I decided (and followed through) that I would only have kids if I was married and in a solid relationship.
I saw first hand how friend's lives were destroyed by meth and never touched the stuff.
I'm 63 now but when I was young drug's were just coming on the scene. Or at leat my group. Experiencing friends dying from drugs shocked & saddened me enough to stay away from them.
This kid sounds like every character from Fast Times at Ridgemont High wrapped up into one person.
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