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Hello all my fellow CD people. I hope this holiday season is going well for you.
I have two random thoughts that I would like your thoughts on.
The first is this: "There are mainly two types of people in the world, those who will ask you "how was your day", and those that will say, "Guess how my day was?". To me the main difference basically people who are focused on others and not so "self centered" and the latter is very "self centered". IMO if you are going to get married you want to be in a relationship with a "how was your day" type of person.
The second random thought is this: Whenever you get sick and you are forced to be at work or social events for whatever reason and you cough, sneeze, etc... you will get two types of reactions. The non selfish people will say "I'm sorry you're sick" etc... the selfish people will say "don't get me sick". I understand not wanting to get sick, but in my opinion it is a rude thing to say to someone who is obviously not in a condition they want to be in. Anyway what are your thoughts? Not that any of this has any crazy significant meaning as it's just another in many threads on CD, but I'd still like your thoughts.
The first is this: "There are mainly two types of people in the world, those who will ask you "how was your day", and those that will say, "Guess how my day was?". To me the main difference basically people who are focused on others and not so "self centered" and the latter is very "self centered". IMO if you are going to get married you want to be in a relationship with a "how was your day" type of person.
The only time I would hear "Guess how my day was?" would be if it were egregiously bad. In which case, I would want to know what happened so I could sympathize.
But more to the point, there are people who are not cognizant of all the social niceties. It doesn't mean they don't care, they've just never had anyone teach them that it's polite to show that you care by asking someone how their day went.
I married such a man. He is that way for reasons I don't want to go into here. But he is teachable and he does care.
We have had many people wish us "Merry Christmas" this month. He invariably responds with, "You, too." So I took him aside and did a little playacting.
"Look at me and say `I love you.'"
"Okay, I love you."
"Ditto. Wait, you wanted to hear it back from me, right?" He nodded. "So try saying `Merry Christmas' back and see what happens."
And he's been doing it.
I think your litmus test doesn't give the results you think it does.
I was just thinking, that people who are sick should not go out in public, and everyone they encounter will be thinking that, even if they don't say so.
As far as people who tell you how their day was vs. asking how yours was - I completely see your point here. Relationships need to be give and take. Each side having the right to talk about themselves, but also being capable of listening to someone else's problems, etc.
Hello all my fellow CD people. I hope this holiday season is going well for you.
I have two random thoughts that I would like your thoughts on.
The first is this: "There are mainly two types of people in the world, those who will ask you "how was your day", and those that will say, "Guess how my day was?". To me the main difference basically people who are focused on others and not so "self centered" and the latter is very "self centered". IMO if you are going to get married you want to be in a relationship with a "how was your day" type of person.
The second random thought is this: Whenever you get sick and you are forced to be at work or social events for whatever reason and you cough, sneeze, etc... you will get two types of reactions. The non selfish people will say "I'm sorry you're sick" etc... the selfish people will say "don't get me sick". I understand not wanting to get sick, but in my opinion it is a rude thing to say to someone who is obviously not in a condition they want to be in. Anyway what are your thoughts? Not that any of this has any crazy significant meaning as it's just another in many threads on CD, but I'd still like your thoughts.
1. Narcissists, and I have no idea where you are finding these people.
2. "Too late, the doctor says I'm horribly contagious, but the boss wouldn't let me have the day off. Achoo.
I haven't met anyone who asks me if I want to know about their day either.
No one wants to get sick. Where I work, we are all in cubicles. One department is on the other side of the room, and they sound like the TB Ward at a hospital. I try to keep healthy, but having them coughing like they are going to lose a lung worries me.
What irks me is that they get paid more than I do and they can get all the overtime they want. I can't. So basically they can afford to take time off to cough at home. If I get sick and have to take time off, I lose that income. I can't get overtime to make up for lost income. So I either lose the income or come to work sick.
Hello all my fellow CD people. I hope this holiday season is going well for you.
I have two random thoughts that I would like your thoughts on.
The first is this: "There are mainly two types of people in the world, those who will ask you "how was your day", and those that will say, "Guess how my day was?". To me the main difference basically people who are focused on others and not so "self centered" and the latter is very "self centered". IMO if you are going to get married you want to be in a relationship with a "how was your day" type of person.
The second random thought is this: Whenever you get sick and you are forced to be at work or social events for whatever reason and you cough, sneeze, etc... you will get two types of reactions. The non selfish people will say "I'm sorry you're sick" etc... the selfish people will say "don't get me sick". I understand not wanting to get sick, but in my opinion it is a rude thing to say to someone who is obviously not in a condition they want to be in. Anyway what are your thoughts? Not that any of this has any crazy significant meaning as it's just another in many threads on CD, but I'd still like your thoughts.
Well, I do not accept that there only these two kinds of people in the world.
I haven't met anyone who asks me if I want to know about their day either.
No one wants to get sick. Where I work, we are all in cubicles. One department is on the other side of the room, and they sound like the TB Ward at a hospital. I try to keep healthy, but having them coughing like they are going to lose a lung worries me.
What irks me is that they get paid more than I do and they can get all the overtime they want. I can't. So basically they can afford to take time off to cough at home. If I get sick and have to take time off, I lose that income. I can't get overtime to make up for lost income. So I either lose the income or come to work sick.
If I were you I would wear a mask all day long if they were sick across the room.
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