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I'm not familiar with Pei Wei or restaurants with cordoned off lines. Maybe that's where my disconnect is coming from?
You know, it's similar to "cafeteria style, where the entrance leads you into this longish order line that is walled off from the dining room, where you place your order at a register and follow the walled-off line around to the drink station.
It's an order-of-operations concept that works on the assumption that, once everyone is done ordering and getting a drink, they move to a table. So I think that's where the concept of "skipping" the queue comes in.
People of course are free to skip the queue altogether and claim a table before ordering, when they walk in (few people do this where I live), or go back to the drink station AFTER claiming a table (more people do this).
But most people don't confront people about it like the woman in the OP did. LOL
OP, I am with you completely. Not worth fighting over. I try to treat everyone I encounter with love and compassion, not because of any religious beliefs (I am not religious) but because it makes MY life so much better and happier. All you "stand your ground - don't give up the booth" posters should try it sometime.
I don't know. I guess it would depend on the vibe I felt. If this person seemed like a loose cannon ready to go off at any second, I'd back away (its not worth taking chances with such loons, in my view). In any case, behavior like that is completely disgusting.
How so? The other woman ordered first, but did the courteous thing and finished getting her food and drink before claiming a table. What the OP did is the same as claiming the table before she ordered. She jumped the queue.
The idea that it is rude to select a table before you get your food and drink is absolutely risible.
So I guess we should stand around in restaurants and place our orders before we are seated? That isn't the way most restaurants work. Some cafeterias and buffets, maybe. But not any restaurant I've ever been in does things this way, making you stand around until your order comes out.
It's just a table seat, a moment in what may be a long, serene lifetime.
The story and people's suggestion that you speak up for it reminds me of an experience nearly forty years ago when I was young and feisty. Well, and still had the energy for such trivialities.
It was the dead of winter. Below zero. Both kids and I were sick with bad colds and I needed to go to the mall for supplies.
Miserable. But I bundled them up and off we went. I was so glad to see a parking spot close to the door, saw a car driven by an older woman turning in from the opposite direction, so switched on my blinker as an indication I was going to park and waited for her to go past me.
She pulled the old steal-the-parking-spot trick and my not very far from the surface anger flared. I laid on the horn. When she didn't move I hopped out of the car and went over to her. "You took my parking spot, " I said.
"Well, what do you want me to do? Move?" she asked.
"Yes!"
Got back in the car to two startled toddlers. She moved and I got my spot.
Guess what happened when we got in the mall. She had time to think about what had happened and was nail-chewing mad. She headed us off in the hall and followed me, kids in tow, all the length of the mall complaining about how I showed disrespect for my elders. People were gaping at the sight.
I finally said something about age not giving people the right to be rude and she walked away.
What a major commotion!
Looking back and thinking how much I didn't need the extra aggravation that day I hope it helped me learn to weigh my needs and wants.
I admire your valuing the peace of mind, OP.
I'm glad you rethought what you did. But you know what? In that case I'd have ignored you, too.
Was she BEHIND you and pulled around to "get" the parking spot? No? Then she didn't "steal" it. She just pulled into it first.
OP, I am with you completely. Not worth fighting over. I try to treat everyone I encounter with love and compassion, not because of any religious beliefs (I am not religious) but because it makes MY life so much better and happier. All you "stand your ground - don't give up the booth" posters should try it sometime.
Yep, I've tried it, made me feel like a doormat, NOT better or happier, and made absolutely no difference to the other party, who expected folks to cater to them anyway.
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