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You're not wrong for feeling this way BUT you're wrong for NOT saying anything when it first started.he is treating your home as if it's a hotel or something.Speak up and say something.Why the hell can't he do his own laundry before they leave...why do YOU have to do it? Once again someone taking advantage of your generous hospitality.
The son is doing his own laundry.
The OP thought her washer and dryer were so unique that no one could figure out how to use them, so she felt the need to always be there to start the washer and dryer for an adult man.
FWIW, I think offering the laundry is a good thing for a host to do, and not an unreasonable thing for guests to want to do. Some may need to refresh their clothes during the trip if they packed light... some may just not want to repack dirty clothes.
IT'S NOT A BIG DEAL FOR THEM TO DO A LOAD OR EVEN TWO, OF LAUNDRY!
I would probably offer to do it, or at least get it started for them, mostly because our own things may be in the way and I may need to go in and clear the way for them, set out the detergent, and clear a space for them to sort and fold, etc... because that's the nice thing to do.
This is a family member who is 36, married, good job, 2 kids under 5. Whenever he visits he asks to use the washer/dryer on the day they leave. I have never had anyone, relative or friend, ask to use our washer and dryer to do their clothes.
Honestly, it really bugs me. I do enjoy their visits, but seriously, I already have to cook and clean up after them, plus change the sheets and towels and wash them, so I have to do their laundry too? To be clear, I plan for their visit and create daily menus, have their beverages on hand, what the kids like to eat etc. I just don't get this quirk of doing their laundry before they leave. They have their own house with a washer/dryer and his wife doesn't work so ???
Am I wrong to feel this way?
I can understand why he might want to do "his" laundry, but next time, tell him right out, that if any of his laundry needs to be done he has to tend to it....period.
When my son visit's he does their laundry and I do mine when I visit him? There is no problem as far as I'm concerned, but he takes care of his, I take care of mine.
(I only read the OP's 1st & 2nd posts so far.) I'd automatically think that your relative/guest wants fresh clothing to pack up and not stink up his luggage/bags with dirty clothing. It probably makes it easier for him on his end when he gets back home. The clothing would probably be wrinkled though, but I guess he'd rather have clean & clean-smelling, yet wrinkled clothing in his suitcase over stinky, dirty, & wrinkled clothing in his suitcase.
I wouldn't find that too odd.
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