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Have you ever just wanted to tell someone the truth, without putting on a act or hiding your feelings?
I have always been known to be the person that will be direct and honest, when prompted or asked for my thoughts. As I age, I have found it is sometimes a struggle to keep it bottled in when they want me to just smile and congratulate them.
Example 1- Parents post pics of their beautiful newborn daughter, they they have just proudly given an awful name. Like a name that will not be well received for a girl at any point in her life time. I expect the child will request a legal name change as soon as she can. I wanted to tell them, "it is not to late to change that name!", but I knew I could not. Poor child...
For me I would want someone to point something out to me, and that is what happened when I was tossing around names for my daughter. I liked the name Molly, but everyone said it was a name given to dogs frequently. I was glad I got opinions. My daughter is quite happy she is not a Molly.
If someone asks you to give them an opinion then that is appropriate. If you are wanting to just offer your unsolicited opinion, that is more a boundary issue, yours.
Regarding the subject, the child is already named....Keep your opinion to yourself....It is called restraint, or self-control.
If someone asks you to give them an opinion then that is appropriate. If you are wanting to just offer your unsolicited opinion, that is more a boundary issue, yours.
Regarding the subject, the child is already named....Keep your opinion to yourself....It is called restraint, or self-control.
I established in the OP that I was keeping my opinion to myself.
Or maybe you should have had a backbone and not let other people tell you what to name your child.
My daughter had some people try to tell her not to name her son a certain name because it was popular right then. She told them to pound sand.
I am glad I did not name her the original name.
Well I found it quite comical at the Mother's Day celebration at school, with the duplicate name moms walking around wondering which "Common Name" was their kid's placemat. Both of my children are the only ones in their schools with their names. And neither have unique names. They just are not common today.
If I ask for someone's honest opinion on something "does this look bad, is this a bad idea," etc...I would appreciate the honesty. But pushing your opinion where it wasn't asked for is just rude.
If I ask for someone's honest opinion on something "does this look bad, is this a bad idea," etc...I would appreciate the honesty. But pushing your opinion where it wasn't asked for is just rude.
Have you ever just wanted to tell someone the truth, without putting on a act or hiding your feelings?
I have always been known to be the person that will be direct and honest, when prompted or asked for my thoughts. As I age, I have found it is sometimes a struggle to keep it bottled in when they want me to just smile and congratulate them.
Example 1- Parents post pics of their beautiful newborn daughter, they they have just proudly given an awful name. Like a name that will not be well received for a girl at any point in her life time. I expect the child will request a legal name change as soon as she can. I wanted to tell them, "it is not to late to change that name!", but I knew I could not. Poor child...
For me I would want someone to point something out to me, and that is what happened when I was tossing around names for my daughter. I liked the name Molly, but everyone said it was a name given to dogs frequently. I was glad I got opinions. My daughter is quite happy she is not a Molly.
Let the parents name the child what they wish- just because the name is not considered a girls name now doesn't mean that it will never be. Perhaps the girl will go to school with dozens of people with her name or she will be glad to have an unique name.
Would you like someone to tell you that they don't know why your parents named you your name, OP? What if they told you they can't imagine why your parents stuck you with such an awful name?
If someone asks you to give them an opinion then that is appropriate. If you are wanting to just offer your unsolicited opinion, that is more a boundary issue, yours.
Regarding the subject, the child is already named....Keep your opinion to yourself....It is called restraint, or self-control.
^^^^^ this.
It's like telling someone who just bought a home and moved in that they picked the wrong neighborhood, they're not going to say "thank you so much for telling us, we will start packing everything we just unpacked and move".
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