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If he approaches you, I think you should be honest. Turn it around and ask how he'd feel if you invited him to a party, then expected him to pay hundreds of dollars for the venue, food, drinks, and clothes.
This, exactly. "If she wants to act like a Kartrashian, she can pay for her own party, including my clothes."
So I would never throw a bday party making my guests pay for things. The most I would is BYOB. If you want to party on a boat, coordinate with your friends to rent one out, and everything brings their own thing.
There is a difference of having your bday party in that manner (where people feel obligated to go) and coordinating with others to throw a party like that.
Fundamentally, I just don't understand why he is so angry. Again, if he didn't come to my significant other's bday party, I wouldn't be mad at all. I would be fine with it. I mean it's not like it's their wedding I am saying no to.
But you agreed to pay for the boat.
You paid a large bill for his birthday.
You must be hard up for friends.
I don't know people that do BYOB. If you host you provide.
There are a lot of people who are not completely self-absorbed, who know how to behave in a friendship, and who understand how to be a gracious host. It would probably be a good idea to make some friends like that. This guy sounds like it's all about him and his diva girlfriend. He seems more like an acquaintance, not like a friend who could be counted on.
If I were in your position, I would not continue the friendship with this person, and I would certainly not be concerned about his displeasure. His behavior says a lot about him, none of it good.
^^^^^^^ this. I wonder how long and how well the OP knows this guy? There are acquaintances and there are friends, some people don't know the difference.
I find it amusing that the "friend" and his girlfriend are trying to put on airs, when they're asking their guests to pay for everything.
frimpter, we're all dying for an update here. Have you met up with your friend?
So no big updates really. My friend texted me saying that he is still angry at me. My response? I literally responded "How was the party?" and then he went off asking me how dare I ask that, and that he is so mad that he doesn't want to tell me what he really thinks as he might say something that he doesn't mean.
I responeded "Go ahead and tell me, I can handle". So he said no, that it's something he would do in person, and then I said "Sure, I am available to meet on the following dates if you want to discuss the matter in person".
Haven't heard back yet......
You know what's so ironic of it all? For 7/9 I got baseball tickets for the Chicago Cubs (I get them for free) and invited him and his GF a while ago to go with me and they don't have to pay (because technically I didn't have to pay). They accepted. Each ticket is worth about $150-200. Again I didn't pay for it, but at the same time I didn't have to invite them either.
So if I don't hear back by Friday from him, I will notify him and that if him and his girlfriend are so upset with me, I rather not go with the game with them and I would imagine they would not want to with me as well. I will replace them just like he told me he would do so for the boat. I am not letting it get to me, but not rolling over for them either.
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Was there ever any prior indication of this guy being.... so sensitive?
We are all piling on the GF, and I'm pretty sure she is a large part of the problem, but your friend is certainly pulling his own weight when it comes to being difficult.
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So no big updates really. My friend texted me saying that he is still angry at me. My response? I literally responded "How was the party?" and then he went off asking me how dare I ask that, and that he is so mad that he doesn't want to tell me what he really thinks as he might say something that he doesn't mean.
I responeded "Go ahead and tell me, I can handle". So he said no, that it's something he would do in person, and then I said "Sure, I am available to meet on the following dates if you want to discuss the matter in person".
Haven't heard back yet......
You know what's so ironic of it all? For 7/9 I got baseball tickets for the Chicago Cubs (I get them for free) and invited him and his GF to go with me and they don't have to pay (because technically I didn't have to pay). They accepted. Each ticket is worth about $150-200. Again I didn't pay for it, but at the same time I didn't have to invite them either.
So if I don't hear back by Friday from him, I will notify him and that if him and his girlfriend are so upset with me, I rather not go with the game with them and I would imagine they would not want to with me as well. I will replace them just like he told me he would do so for the boat. I am not letting it get to me, but not rolling over for them either.
Good for you.
You sound like a good friend to me.
Too bad your friend is having some sort of confusion/delusion at the moment.
Peace to ya.
So no big updates really. My friend texted me saying that he is still angry at me. My response? I literally responded "How was the party?" and then he went off asking me how dare I ask that, and that he is so mad that he doesn't want to tell me what he really thinks as he might say something that he doesn't mean.
I responeded "Go ahead and tell me, I can handle". So he said no, that it's something he would do in person, and then I said "Sure, I am available to meet on the following dates if you want to discuss the matter in person".
Haven't heard back yet......
You know what's so ironic of it all? For 7/9 I got baseball tickets for the Chicago Cubs (I get them for free) and invited him and his GF to go with me and they don't have to pay (because technically I didn't have to pay). They accepted. Each ticket is worth about $150-200. Again I didn't pay for it, but at the same time I didn't have to invite them either.
So if I don't hear back by Friday from him, I will notify him and that if him and his girlfriend are so upset with me, I rather not go with the game with them and I would imagine they would not want to with me as well. I will replace them just like he told me he would do so for the boat. I am not letting it get to me, but not rolling over for them either.
I wouldn't even bother with saying this. Find someone else to take to the game. If he asks about the game than you can say "well you were so angry with me I didn't think it was a good idea to see the two of you for the time being".
Because he sounds like the type that if he did go(just to see the game) he would have a chip on his shoulder and ruin the day.
I wouldn't even bother with saying this. Find someone else to take to the game. If he asks about the game than you can say "well you were so angry with me I didn't think it was a good idea to see the two of you for the time being".
Because he sounds like the type that if he did go(just to see the game) he would have a chip on his shoulder and ruin the day.
This OP!
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