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Old 07-26-2017, 03:44 PM
 
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Should I ask for it back? Or just eat the loss?

To be fair to myself, I lent it without really knowing I was. She's visiting from out the country and doesn't have debit/visa cards. She asked me to book a concert ticket for her + her kids and said she would reimburse me the money with cash as soon as possible. It's been 2 weeks now and I havent heard anything. At the time, I did it gladly bc I'm fond of her and the kids, and I dont get to see her often.

I'm tight on cash, but would have been ok to loan her the money. Now I feel like I was kind of scammed out the money and I feel weird asking her for it. I'm not really sure what her financial situation is. She wears nice/expensive clothes but is also frugal about certain things. I don't want to offend her by asking for the money back. I feel awkward. Did she forget?
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Old 07-26-2017, 03:47 PM
 
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Just inform her that you are tight on cash and need to have your money back. If she squawks and gives you a hard time about it then you know you have a lousy relative and that knowledge only cost you $200.
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Old 07-26-2017, 03:47 PM
 
Location: Northern California
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Ask her for the money.
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Old 07-26-2017, 03:49 PM
 
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Just inform her that you are tight on cash and need to have your money back. If she squawks and gives you a hard time about it. Then you know you have a lousy relative and that knowledge only cost you $200.
good point! thnx!
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Old 07-26-2017, 03:50 PM
 
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Ask her for the money.
Okay
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Old 07-26-2017, 04:08 PM
 
Location: on the wind
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Hard to say whether she forgot or not. It wasn't a trivial amount of money really. What about "reminding" her by making an offhand comment such as "how did you like the concert? Did you end up with good seats?"

Her response will probably tell you a lot.
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Old 07-26-2017, 04:13 PM
 
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I would ask. I know it sucks asking but it doesn't hurt. If she doesn't pay you back then take it as a lost and be more careful with who you let borrow money.
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Old 07-26-2017, 04:15 PM
 
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sorry, but she really snookered you. I hope you get it back but really... I bet she doesn't and knew it when she said it.
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Old 07-26-2017, 04:17 PM
 
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Ask her. I'd be surprised if you got it back though. I don't loan anyone money unless I'm prepared to loose it.
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Old 07-26-2017, 04:21 PM
 
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I would definitely ask for it.

Your only mistake was not having her hand over the cash as you used your card. It sounds more like she couldn't afford the tickets & knew you were a soft touch. (She could easily have bought a prepaid card with cash.)

Hope you get your money back.

Last edited by historyfan; 07-26-2017 at 04:23 PM.. Reason: edit
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