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I'm semi retired from the company but I still go in three days a week . A co worker was telling me that she had a date on Wednesday night and he was the choir director at her church . Well when he dropped her off at her place he asked if he could come in and she told him no . She said he became a lil irritated and said that he had driven a good bit to get to her and he never had not been asked in . I told her that was not normal and she did the right thing by telling him no , who knows what he had in mind ? I told her she should also speak to the pastor of the church where he is employed and let the pastor know what occurred . I mean just because they are employed by a church does not mean they are a saint to put it mildly. For some reason that guy that worked for Joyce Meyer came into my head . The guy who handled security for her ministry at one time , he had killed his wife and two boys . Sad just sad . So I feel like I might have saved her life and I'm glad she told me and I told her so . Is this how men are acting on dates now ? I have been married a long time and I would not relish being single in this day and age at all .
I never personally had a date actually ask to come in; they all waited to be invited, and to ask after a first date seems out of line. I know a woman, a senior no less, who asked a date in for coffee after a movie date. Well she started the coffee pot in the kitchen and when she returned to the living room the man was standing there nude! You just never know!
I'll have to try that one. You think its a little over the top?
Had her coworker followed this advice and this "pastor" or whatever he is gotten fired he might have shown up at the coworker's home and God only knows what might occur.
Part of the dating world is that you encounter the occasional jerk or have a date go sour. I don't think it's anyone else's responsibility to intervene in these situations. We have to be adults and deal with the situation on our own. Running to the pastor to "tattle" on a grown man seems immature and bizarre.
I agree. If this man has a pattern of doing this to other church women, then maybe the pastor needs to be told. But, we don't know this is a pattern yet.
Really? We don't know what might have happened if she let him come into her house. Even if he didn't plan on murdering her, being forcibly raped is no fun. Maybe he was not going to do anything untoward. But, if a woman doesn't feel comfortable in a situation, she should take precautions. She did the right thing in this instance.
I was repeatedly asked out by a man that belonged to the singles group at a church I used to attend. I finally went out on a date with him. I had no reason to be concerned about him nor fearful. We got back to my apartment and sat on the sofa talking. Next thing I know he is all over me, hands everywhere. I was able to push him away and make him leave. He was very popular with everyone in our group. So I was surprised at his behavior. Obviously I made it out alive. But I was also glad I was able to get him to leave before anything else could happen.
Another thing. If a woman wants to get to know somebody before having sex, it's no fun having to wrestling with him every time they are together.
Of course she did the right thing by not inviting him in if she didn't want to.
But, if she can't handle a man suggesting something she doesn't want to do she'd just better stay away from men.
OK...so now we know you weren't as smart as she was and you're projecting. There has been not one bit of proof that he would have been as aggressive as the one you were with nor was it mentioned at all that he tried to manhandle her.
He simply just acted like a spoiled child and didn't handle rejection graciously.
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