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If possible, I’d avoid her and not engage in any kind of conversation that will lead to her talking about anything personal like social plans.
But if you can’t avoid her, this is what I’d do. Take a moment to look her over like you’re observing a large green bug, then say one of the following:
“Well bless your heart! Isnt it wonderful that a little party invitation can make you feel so validated.”
“How nice for you. The last time I crowed over a party invitation was when I was in junior high.”
“Wow. You’re quite the social butterfly. Now if you’ll excuse me I have more important things to attend to. “
Come back and let us know how she reacts. Good luck!
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Originally Posted by VTsnowbird;
I might pull a Church Lady and say, "Well, isn't that SPECIAL....."
I withdraw, in view of the superior snark & sarcasm skills of my peers. My hat's off to you all.
I try to be pleasant to all, but there is this one lady that is getting under my skin. We have several acquaintances in common and there are often social gatherings with these other couples that I am not included. She always makes it known that she was invited (but I was not). I don't know how to respond to her constant needling that I am not part of the "in-crowd". I have been holding my tongue and acting like I do not care, but honestly it is starting to wear on me. There is no way to avoid these people and I live in a small town and frankly I don't want her to think she has influenced me.
My question is: what would be a good come back to stop her from being so nasty? I am always at a loss for words when she starts her harping. Thanks
I can speak from experience... Toxic people like what you are dealing with are far too frequent. In fact, I describe them as Toxic types who bully their way into your guilt feelings in order to CONTROL YOU!
Recently, Im dealing with such a person who bullies and threatens and constantly breaks the hearts of those she rails against! She has zero compunction about hurting others including family!!
RISE ABOVE IT!! BE the better person.. Never succumb to this sort of tactic!! In the end, tho painful to experience.. make YOURSELF the better person and THEM the losers that MOST of society understand to be " Deplorable/Threatening people"!!
Rotten souls have no other way unless they can force their wills on another! Refusal to accept it.. May and does put some at risk.. So make sure this "Nasty Person" is reported to others, not necessarily LE unless they threaten your life or she exhibits such tendencies!!
BEST choice.. cut all ties.. ban them from contact.. never respond .. and copy and paste threats, nastiness to those in your corner ( LE if necessary).. and IF continues seek a "Restraining Order"!! Toxic folks will always be toxic!!
I withdraw, in view of the superior snark & sarcasm skills of my peers. My hat's off to you all.
LOL thanks for the kudos, but I rarely have the presence of mind to say these things in the moment. Then of course, after I’ve fumed over it and had time to think of the perfect comeback, the situation rarely presents itself again.
Some people don't mature properly and this woman is one of them. She's obviously a very insecure person.
There's a lot of great comments posted - I like the suggestion about just bursting out laughing or offering her some cookies !
Remember her behavior really has nothing to do with you. Sadly this woman doesn't even realize how she's embarrassing herself. Does not have integrity.
Whatever you do just deflect and ignore her pathetic behavior.
Just smile and say, "have a nice day" and quickly walk away.
I would keep on not reacting. After all, that's what's driving her crazy. As soon as you acknowledge it in any way, she'll finally get that bit of validation she so pathetically needs. Keep on with what you've been (or actually not been) doing, it'll get to her like no little insult or dig ever could.
Lots of good comeback suggestions here, OP. Riffing on a couple of 'em, I suggest: "It sounds like being popular is important to you. That's great that you can get the affirmation you crave. Did you get left out of a lot of stuff in highschool?" If she says, "What?? No!", say, "Oh, it just seems like you're trying to compensate for something."
To follow on in that line "I guess you don't get invited out much, do you? Don't worry, sugar, it can only get better"
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My hat's off to you all.
