How can two siblings be so different? (husband, brother, sister)
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I know of two siblings that are very different when it comes to their attitudes towards life and the success they have been able to achieve, despite having virtually the exact same upbringing.
They are just two years apart and the older one has a master's degree and is very highly motivated. The younger one barely finished high school and pretty much lives in the projects.
How common do you think this type of situation is? And is there any real explanation for it? Especially when they virtually had the same upbringing...
My sister and I are polar opposites, as was my mother and her brother. Seems very common from what I've seen.
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Conjoined twins (used to be called "siamese", these twins are attached to each other) turn out differently. They are identical twins, and they live their lives attached, and they develop different personalities and interests.
They aren't the same person to start, then parents don't treat all their kids the same, school experiences are different, relationships with friends are different.
Nature and nurture conspire to create individuals.
In my personal experience, I more often see similarities in close families... physical resemblance, gestures, voices/laugh, commonalities in likes/dislikes/career. That's not to say they're all the same. People in a particular field might have similarities, but be far different in personality & way of life.
There are 7 siblings in my family. Not only is there no physical resemblance whatsoever (different hair/eye colors, drastic height disparities, body types, facial features), we have nothing in common at all in temperament, personality, attitudes, senses of humor... we all even live in different states, from cowtown to uber-urban to small towns. Additionally, none of us physically resemble or have similarities with our parents, either. How did that all happen if from the same gene pool?!
The last time we siblings were all together was in '95, when a pic was taken. Whenever I've shown that pic to anyone, they insist those aren't my siblings, as there's no hint of resemblance between anyone. Why people think I'd fabricate a family is beyond me, but whatever. Maybe it's as none of us live near each other so they think I'm an only child as we don't get together for holidays or weekend BBQs. Also, whenever people have met my mother, they ask if she's my stepmom, as there's no similarity, beginning with she's under 5' & I'm over 5'7" & our facial features couldn't be more opposite.
I'll bet there's 1 of everything, like any other statistic... some resemble each other with nothing in common & vice versa & every other possibility of that gene pool blend or vinegar-water mix. Toss of the coin, those genes.
My twins are quite different. Sometimes opposites. He was born with red hair (which changed to blonde then light brown), while she was born with black hair (which lightened to medium brown). He’s blue eyed, she’s brown eyed. He’s math/science inclined, she’s into the humanities. He’s extroverted, she’s an introvert. He pushes himself to excel and to gain confidence in life experiences, while she’s fearful and shies away. I can go on and on!
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Maybe it's as none of us live near each other so they think I'm an only child as we don't get together for holidays or weekend BBQs. Also, whenever people have met my mother, they ask if she's my stepmom, as there's no similarity, beginning with she's under 5' & I'm over 5'7" & our facial features couldn't be more opposite.
