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They keep saying how they are "brothers" and have a deeper bond. They all pitched in and bought my brother an expensive grill and golf clubs. I wasn't included in that. They are also planning to buy other gifts once the wedding date is closer. I just hate that they act like they're related and grew up together. They didn't and I've been in my brother's life longer.
Well, they aren't just co-workers. They are literally responsible for each others' lives. They are closer than friends; closer than co-workers. Unfortunately, the English language is very limited, so the closest word they can come up with is brother. Just remind yourself that there is more than one meaning to the word. They can't diminish what you and your bother share ... unless you let them, that is.
Not only are they "literally responsible for each others' lives" I bet that there have been actual situations where they have "literally" saved your brother's life and vice versa.
If he moves to another city or to another job these men may stop being quite as important to him, or other men may take their place, but you will always be a part of your brother's life. Unless, of course, you do something to seriously hurt him, like bowing out of his wedding.
Suck it up and learn to appreciate his buddies and not to let these little things bug you.
They keep saying how they are "brothers" and have a deeper bond. They all pitched in and bought my brother an expensive grill and golf clubs. I wasn't included in that. They are also planning to buy other gifts once the wedding date is closer. I just hate that they act like they're related and grew up together. They didn't and I've been in my brother's life longer.
So they are being awesome groomsmen.
You can either be awesome too, or the only one in the group that complained to the groom.
Remember who the day is about. Hint: not you.
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Not only are they "literally responsible for each others' lives" I bet that there have been actual situations where they have "literally" saved your brother's life and vice versa.
If he moves to another city or to another job these men may stop being quite as important to him, or other men may take their place, but you will always be a part of your brother's life. Unless, of course, you do something to seriously hurt him, like bowing out of his wedding.
Suck it up and learn to appreciate his buddies and not to let these little things bug you.
Look, i do appreciate whatever they do for my brother in their jobs and that's it. I just wish my brother would focus more on his blood family and not them.
It's more about them showing off and trying to make me feel bad and look bad.
I sincerely doubt that is there motivation. Again, this is NOT supposed to be about you.
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They keep saying how they are "brothers" and have a deeper bond. They all pitched in and bought my brother an expensive grill and golf clubs. I wasn't included in that.
Because they are friends with each other and you're not part of that. Get some buddies of your own and it won't bother you so much anymore. My sister has always had tons more friends than I did. I learned to accept it.
Weddings often bring out the worst in people. It's a shame. There were all kinds of family squabbles going in when I got married, and my parents were divorced. Since it wasn't an amicable divorce, they both threatened to not show up at my wedding. I hated being caught in the middle of that.
It's more about them showing off and trying to make me feel bad and look bad.
They're not showing off; they're supporting your brother and celebrating his wedding. And the only one "making" you feel and look bad is YOU.
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