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I am the punching bag of pretty much all the friend groups I am part of, so I'm used to it. I know they mean no harm. I can't even order at a restaurant without everyone bursting out into laughter. However, they are still good friends so I choose to just roll with it.
I disagree that these people are good friends.
Let me ask you this: if you found yourself in a jam, could you go to any of them for help? Would you be able to trust any of them with a private matter you needed help with?
If the answer to both of these questions is no, then they aren’t friends. They are just guys you know, that you hang with, who like to make you the butt of their jokes.
You should have too much self respect to hang with people who treat you and your life as if it is one big joke.
Let me ask you this: if you found yourself in a jam, could you go to any of them for help? Would you be able to trust any of them with a private matter you needed help with?
If the answer to both of these questions is no, then they aren’t friends. They are just guys you know, that you hang with, who like to make you the butt of their jokes.
You should have too much self respect to hang with people who treat you and your life as if it is one big joke.
I have been in plenty of jams before and they have helped me. And I know I could certainly trust them with any private matter. I don't hang out with them just so I can have friends. I hang out with them because I have fun with them. For example, my great-aunt, who I saw a couple of times a year, passed away in June and they all wanted to know when the wake was, etc, and they were there. And they have helped me out in numerous other instances as well. THEY ARE GOOD FRIENDS.
I have been in plenty of jams before and they have helped me. And I know I could certainly trust them with any private matter. I don't hang out with them just so I can have friends. I hang out with them because I have fun with them. For example, my great-aunt, who I saw a couple of times a year, passed away in June and they all wanted to know when the wake was, etc, and they were there. And they have helped me out in numerous other instances as well. THEY ARE GOOD FRIENDS.
If they are such good friends, and I accept that they are because of what you have posted, then why in the world do they constantly make fun of you?
It doesn't make sense.
Joking that a member of a friend group is gay because that member likes to hang with another guy, is just bad taste. And as someone else stated, your gender preference is not a joking matter.
If these people are friends to you, you should be able to tell them to knock it off. And if you are firm enough, they should indeed knock it off.
I have been in plenty of jams before and they have helped me. And I know I could certainly trust them with any private matter. I don't hang out with them just so I can have friends. I hang out with them because I have fun with them. For example, my great-aunt, who I saw a couple of times a year, passed away in June and they all wanted to know when the wake was, etc, and they were there. And they have helped me out in numerous other instances as well. THEY ARE GOOD FRIENDS.
I have been in plenty of jams before and they have helped me. And I know I could certainly trust them with any private matter. I don't hang out with them just so I can have friends. I hang out with them because I have fun with them. For example, my great-aunt, who I saw a couple of times a year, passed away in June and they all wanted to know when the wake was, etc, and they were there. And they have helped me out in numerous other instances as well. THEY ARE GOOD FRIENDS.
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OP, I certainly understand your desire to maintain these friendships and I appreciate that when the 'chips are down' that your friends are there for you but sometimes we have to 'draw a line in the sand' and say enough is enough.
Sorry but as Lady Macbeth said, "things without all remedy should be without regard: what's done, is done".
If these friends continue to taunt you and make remarks which are are hurtful to you there may have to come a time where you have to cool these friendships and consider moving on from them. There is no doubt in my mind that this may seem unthinkable and would be a loss to you but I think your self esteem is far more valuable in light of their hurtful and derogatory comments.
As usual...jmho and best wishes in resolving this however you go about it, sincerely.
Does Jake share in the teasing? How does he feel about these "couple" jokes? You might want to ask him sometime when it's just the two of you. If he doesn't like it, the two of you together could ask the other friends to stop. It might have more of an impact if it comes from both of you.
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