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Because we don't feel obligated to follow society's dumb rules that high school friends have to want nothing to do with each other after high school. All of us prefer this group over our other friend groups and have fun together. Therefore, we remain friends. And I also am the punching bag of the 2 friend groups I am in, not just this one.
I have a friend who will eat any kind of dirt imaginable just to remain "friends" with other guys. I know that he's hurt by what they say, because he tells me.
They've singled him out because he doesn't say much during their gatherings. He sits there and listens to others talk. That's all he wants to do. But by being mostly silent, he's the butt of their jokes.
You're telling us essentially the same thing. You'll eat any dirt they dish your way, just to remain in the group. You think the other guys don't know that? They can do anything to you. Let me guess: When they attack somebody else, you laugh uproariously, relieved that the pressure is off you.
You might be thinking that if you just hang in there, they'll get tired of riding you. Maybe. I don't know. But man, you've got a girlfriend. You don't need these immature idiots.
Here's what you do. Play along with it to the point that it makes THEM uncomfortable. Start "flirting" with them. Sit really close to them on the couch and bat your eyelashes at them. Tell them "Jake is cute, but I just realized YOU are way cuter!". Be really obnoxious with the flirting and don't let up. Start calling each of them things like "big boy". Touch their arms accordingly and fawn over how muscular they are.
The point is, play their game and act like you are having as much fun with it as they are. When they see you aren't bothered by their teasing, they will drop it. It's only fun to them because they see it bothers you.
But I do have to wonder if these guys are even worth being friends with. They sound like a bunch of jerks.
Horrible advice.
OP, do not do that! The best advice is to completely ignore them.
Ask why they are so jealous, or jokingly invite them for a 3-way.
Honestly, If I were you, I'd add fuel to the fire by hanging out with Jake and not them, lol.
^^^^this.
The problem today with many younger people is they take every slight every joke as a major trauma.
The best way to deal with people like this is just shrug your shoulders, show no emotion, and just give it back to them. They usually back off once they see they're not getting a rise out of you, and you can dish it out an than some.
OP, you have done several threads now about this same group. You're no longer in HS, time to find some new friends.
OP, they're you're friends and indeed don't seem to be the type that are going to let go of something because it bothers you....but are rather encouraged by it.
If you can't think of a way to get even then you're not trying very hard.
Right now, you're curling up in a ball like a little female dog so let me throw you some bones.
1) If you have a friend whose phone or computer you can access independently then google something like "Redtube gay porn" on it. Take a pick of it with your phone. Respond to their next group jab with that picture. Or just pull up that website and then turn off the monitor or minimize the phone screen and let them find it on their own later.
2) Create a Grinder profile (Gay Tinder) for the one that does it the most. Next time they tease you, just joke back "it's ok Jeff, I know you'll find your soulmate too one day" and include the link to their Grinder profile.
3) Craigslist. Post a lawnmower for sale cheap, put your friends cell # down.
4) Leave your buddy an "upper decker" in his toilet.
Basically, you need to go on offense. Have fun.
Oh, and if you can frame some of the other guys in the group for various pranks....all the better.
You can also do thinks like sign them up for hair club for men etc. and then that starts coming in their snail mail.
OP, next time the biggest bully says that to you, tell him "Hey, stop trying to put the focus on me, because all us of already know that you are the one who has a thing for <insert 2nd biggest bully's name>! We don't care bro, so just admit it already"!
I just order normally, but there have been a couple of times when I changed my order at the last second or ordered something "old man like," such as hot tea, which triggered the laughter. I am just an absentminded person in general, which is how I get to be the punching bag. But as long as the jokes aren't over the line, I don't mind, because life is too short to not be friends with a nice group of people over some jokes.
You can get them to stop the joke by ignoring it. Right now they enjoy your reaction. Once that enjoyment is gone the joke will stop.
Yep. Non-committal but non-reactive each time it comes up. Bring up something else to banter about. Remind yourself that it IS juvenile and simply not true. Show up with a female friend or talk about one. The only person you really have to answer to is yourself. If one member of the group is the habitual instigator it might make you feel you've nipped this in the bud if you take him aside and tell him the joke is old, played out, and and to move on with his life. If this doesn't work, drop the stupid group and spend time elsewhere.
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