"Deflating" on Facebook (person, children, dynamics, house)
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Would you consider it rude for a Facebook "friend" to undercut a post of yours? For instance, let's say you're ranting about something, maybe half in jest, and the comment is "I have never had any problem with that," or "we should emphasize the positive" or some other buzzkill response suggesting that you're overreacting or are being a complainer. Isn't the proper response to just join in the spirit of the rant and play along with it?
Would you consider it rude for a Facebook "friend" to undercut a post of yours? For instance, let's say you're ranting about something, maybe half in jest, and the comment is "I have never had any problem with that," or "we should emphasize the positive" or some other buzzkill response suggesting that you're overreacting or are being a complainer. Isn't the proper response to just join in the spirit of the rant and play along with it?
The person is question is a repeat offender.
I cannot STAND when people do that. I deal with them by putting them on the restricted list so they only see my public posts, which are usually cute animal things shared from other pages--nothing anyone could have a contrary or smug opinion about.
I do feel there is some kind of deep psychological need in people like that. Maybe they are the type who have to put others down or attempt to look "wiser" than others to try to make themselves feel better about themselves. Maybe no one listens to them at home so they say stuff like that to be acknowledged and feel like they count. Nonetheless, "repeat offenders" like them are not privy to my "real" posts because I find their comments to be tedious.
Would you consider it rude for a Facebook "friend" to undercut a post of yours? For instance, let's say you're ranting about something, maybe half in jest, and the comment is "I have never had any problem with that," or "we should emphasize the positive" or some other buzzkill response suggesting that you're overreacting or are being a complainer. Isn't the proper response to just join in the spirit of the rant and play along with it?
The person is question is a repeat offender.
Perhaps the ranting gets old? And they realize that telling you what you want to hear doesn't serve any good?
There are certainly people in my life, who I don't always agree with. For instance, one of my friends is just so sure that Bill Gates wants to kill all the children with vaccines. I very much disagree with this thought process. One time, she posted a meme that was factually wrong, and I pointed out the discrepancy, very respectfully.
And she, very respectfully, disagreed with me. And we left it at that. Even though I strongly disagree with her premise...it's HER facebook page, and I'm not going to argue with her about it.
Another example...my cousin is married to a woman, who everything is "My way or the highway". I'm not crazy about her. Not that I hate her or anything...I'm just not crazy about her. But I like my cousin a lot, and I like their daughter a lot...so...even though I disagree with a lot of things about her, I don't argue with her. Again...it's her facebook page. I just don't see the point in driving a wedge into family dynamics, over differences of opinion, and I'm pretty sure I'd come out the loser anyway.
But on the other hand, the amount of misinformation and outright lying is staggering, on Facebook. I just call it Fib Book.
And she, very respectfully, disagreed with me. And we left it at that. Even though I strongly disagree with her premise...it's HER facebook page, and I'm not going to argue with her about it.
Perhaps the ranting gets old? And they realize that telling you what you want to hear doesn't serve any good?
That is what "unfollowing" is for. Or if you are concerned for the person's welfare, writing to them directly-- "I noticed this whatever thing has been bothering you a lot lately. How can I help?"
To me, your Facebook page is like the living room of your house. If you invite me into your house, I'm going to do my best to be respectful in your house.
If you're REALLY an impossible person, in my opinion, I'll quit visiting your house. LOL
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