"Deflating" on Facebook (wife, Christmas, person, children)
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Facebook is lame, but yes, of course people still use it. It started as a college kid thing, but has become the main internet portal for Boomers and Gen X which is, oh, I dunno, about half the internet users in the world.
I feel you as I closed my account a couple of years back. Seeing people's political and social thoughts (that they now blurt out) was aggravating me, and it became to tempting to look if I kept the account on. And I realized it was big visual lie featuring happy pics of couples that really don't get along, people bragging about homes that in reality were draining their finances, everybody is called good looking, ect....
With that said, you do live in NYC, there's alot going on there. Also you may still be at an age and in good health where you can be active. But there are many in the country who live in towns and cities with not much going on by comparison, those with health issues or live far from family that they still like,so Facebook is an outlet for them. And I've learned that woman more than men REALLY like to share what's going on
But for the OP, and anybody, if you post something, then put a disclaimer in it that says "I don't wanna hear opposing opinions". otherwise your post are fair game.
Does everyone have to agree with you? Maybe your tone, partly in jest, did not come across that way. We all know how things can be misinterpreted without emojis, or LOLs. If someone just put a minor comment like "I've never had that problem", I would take it as no big deal. Either they didn't understand, or they just don't agree. Not everyone has to agree with you on FB....right? There really is no "proper response" to a post, other than condolences if someone died.
In light of what goes on in the world today, this is the smallest problem I've ever heard of. Sort of like a hangnail. If you feel she's a Debbie Downer, just block her.
I don't argue or call people out on social media UNLESS they post something I know is false, and I've done that maybe 3 times in my life.
I don't like it when people do this, "correcting" me on my own posts, especially if it was just supposed to be something funny. Like hypothetically if I make a sarcastic funny post about quarantine hair and a bad hair month, and someone posts, "At least you have hair. Some cancer patients don't! That's real suffering!"
But it's the nature of social media, and luckily I don't have a lot of friends who do this.
I have a friend that was indirectly venting about her financial situation, she made a post saying how she went to the store, needed so many things but had to put stuff back due to lack of funds or something like that. I really wish I remembered specifics but people were really rude replying to her; implying she was lucky to have money to buy those things because some people don't.
My friend is a very proud woman. Not many people know her financial situation like I do because she confides in me. She regularly goes to food banks for food because she can't afford food. She had her hours cut back then, then actually lost that job.
Would you consider it rude for a Facebook "friend" to undercut a post of yours? For instance, let's say you're ranting about something, maybe half in jest, and the comment is "I have never had any problem with that," or "we should emphasize the positive" or some other buzzkill response suggesting that you're overreacting or are being a complainer. Isn't the proper response to just join in the spirit of the rant and play along with it?
The person is question is a repeat offender.
If you're putting things out on social media that gets broadcast to your friends and acquaintances then you are, by implicit consent, inviting comments and reactions, which means the good, the bad, the ugly.
Some people will ignore something they disagree with and others will react and respond.
If what you desire are only approbations, then you'll have to limit who sees your rants to those who you know will agree or at least appreciate them.
Would you consider it rude for a Facebook "friend" to undercut a post of yours? For instance, let's say you're ranting about something, maybe half in jest, and the comment is "I have never had any problem with that," or "we should emphasize the positive" or some other buzzkill response suggesting that you're overreacting or are being a complainer. Isn't the proper response to just join in the spirit of the rant and play along with it?
The person is question is a repeat offender.
I don't undercut my friends. However, I don't have friends who complain a lot and that was done on purpose. They are problem solvers. If I make a suggestion that is not feasible, they let me know. Therefore, we brainstorm some more ideas. They do the same for me. Also, I don't complain on facebook.
I don't undercut my friends. However, I don't have friends who complain a lot and that was done on purpose. They are problem solvers. If I make a suggestion that is not feasible, they let me know. Therefore, we brainstorm some more ideas. They do the same for me. Also, I don't complain on facebook.
There is complaining just to complain, there is complaining to elicit sympathy or help, and there is complaining half in jest; the posts in question fall under the third heading. To respond seriously -- and negatively/critically, besides -- somehow sucks all the air out of the room. If you can't relate or don't want to play, just scroll on by; otherwise, it feels like a "gotcha." JMO.
There is complaining just to complain, there is complaining to elicit sympathy or help, and there is complaining half in jest; the posts in question fall under the third heading. To respond seriously -- and negatively/critically, besides -- somehow sucks all the air out of the room. If you can't relate or don't want to play, just scroll on by; otherwise, it feels like a "gotcha." JMO.
I am very careful about how I complain and who I complain to, not out of fear, but because making people 'read between the lines' can result in different responses.
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