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Avoid them. And if they ask why, do them the ultimate kindness and tell them why. Tell them how exhausting it is to be around them.
I'm not exactly a former cast member of Up Up With People. I don't view the world through rose-colored glasses. And I have a pretty dark sense of humor. At the same time, good things, good people, and good events are omnipresent in our lives. And the people who refuse to see them aren't simply blind, they are destructive as well.
How? Because they don't only seek to destroy their own happiness. They are destroying the happiness of others. And that's why they need to be avoided at all costs.
Interesting way of handling it (the bolded) and not easy to do, but I can see where it can be a "kindness." They are most likely completely unaware of their affect on others.
If someone is consistently negative then I avoid them online and off. If it’s a situation where I can’t avoid then I redirect the conversation and if that doesn’t work then I will say something.
I don't mind some negative people as long as they respect me and do fun things with me. It depends on the negativeness. Some of it tends to be realistic. Optimistic people scare me more because many I have personally encountered are intentionally fake and manipulative.
If one has a problem with someone, be able to be direct with them 1-1 and give them a chance. If you can't do that at least first, then maybe the one complaining about being around negative/other people may actually be the one who has a problem.
Basically, don't try to avoid it. Find healthy ways to deal with situations and be around other people.
Avoiding negative people is like never going outside of your home or talking to anyone. You can't avoid it so just learn how to graciously bow out instead of running away from everything you don't like.
Negative people might be negative to you only. Sometimes you learn valuable lessons about yourself from interacting with them.
I was self-employed and chose not to work for negative people, they were drains on energy and ultimately cost money. Socially it is pretty easy to stay away from them but family is not divorce-able, well some are but he's not impossibly negative and is working on more positive attitude.
I have gotten more negative with age, more realistic IMO but do not impose it on others (I think). I will not get involved with someone's problems, some people LOVE to get involved. I dropped a FB friend who kept veering between sobriety and benders, don't need that kinda drama in my life. If it's a relative I'll help but they gotta help themselves more than me.
I noticed negative people try to make you agree with them to some how join forces when they dont like something
These types thrive in the online world. People with crazy ideas about how the world works join up with like-minded people on social media so that they can find/share "evidence" of their crazy to share with others.
As others have noted, it's best to avoid these people. Otherwise they get in your head and drive you crazy even when they're not present.
I avoid them. I simply refuse to talk to them. When asked, I do tell them that misery loves company and with you being miserable, I don't want to be.
Back then, people would complain to me about their lives, ask for advice, etc. I'd lend then an ear, talk to them, give advice. But it gets old when they kept on coming back with the same problems and such. I would tell them that they must love to be in the situation where you are because you keep coming back with the same problems. That and that's the only time you call me is when you have a problem. I call you to chat but you don't call me out of the blue, only to vent? No. Keep on a walking.
I think I repel them with my cheerfulness. I've always been able to ignore complainers. This, too, will end. Nothing I can do about it. Not my circus, not my monkeys. I just won't let them drag me into their negativity. They just find someone else that will listen to their griping.
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