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This is wrong on so many levels. Imagine a conversation between Grade 1's and 2's. "So Johnny what's your favourite thing to drink. I love grape juice." and Johnny replies: "I drink milk from mommy's boobies." yuck!!
This sounds like a judgmental post. Hmmm, others say, do and think things that we would not do ourselves.
I am sorry but your comments make seem like you are calling her some sort of low income back ally woman.
I think there was a period of time where women were told to push their babies for independence early, as in, don't be so dependent on mommy. My reason for thinking this is because many women who have grown children are often advising me to let my daughter grow up and be independent.
I mainly heard these comments when my daughter was an infant and her only form of communication was crying. They would see me pick her up and nurse her and so felt compelled to advise me. Now that she is older, rarely cries in public, walks beside me without trying to bolt away, sociable (if she likes you), "plays" with other kids, nobody is giving me advice about letting her be independent. Nobody knows that I nurse her except people who come to my home.
Just because somebody says that your mom was working with the information that she had doesn't mean that she had limited information due to income. The research just may not have been there to convince her. She did what she thought was best for you based on the information she had at the time.
Many of the studies supporting AP style parenting and extended nursing are quite recent. This does not mean that other parenting styles will result in unhealthy relationships. It simply means that AP is not abnormal but quite normal.
As someone who personally knows multiple children who nursed to age 4 or 5 or beyond, I can tell you that I have never personally *seen* a child that age nursing, besides my own, and that includes personal spaces such as homes and LLL meetings. I think it is really quite uncommon for them to nurse in front of others.
I agree. I have no problem when a child decides to wean. It is simply not my business. I was referring to nursing in public and perhaps the reason I haven't seen it is because we don't yet go to activities where there are many parents. I don't think I will be upset that it will ruin my day but instead use it as something to laugh about later. We saw topless women at South Beach and they weren't models. My husband, , and I are not going around being outraged by this.
I do try to do things that are socially acceptable outside the privacy of my home. I know that some people are not concerned with this but I am. However, I don't try to impose my choices on others.
Just because somebody says that your mom was working with the information that she had doesn't mean that she had limited information due to income. The research just may not have been there to convince her. She did what she thought was best for you based on the information she had at the time.
The thing is why should she have had any information that showed her otherwise. She didn't want to breast feed!
The thing is why should she have had any information that showed her otherwise. She didn't want to breast feed!
I think what I was getting at is that you shouldn't feel like a judgment, especially a negative one, was made about your mom just because she made a different choice. You know that your mom is a good mom, nothing else matters. Believe it or not, if you decide to have children, you might just do some things differently. Hopefully your mom won't see this as being judgmental on how she raised you.
Wanting to bottlefeed is normal. Wanting to breastfeed is normal. That is my message. We are lucky we have the choices.
Anyway, thanks for allowing this discussion to continue. It has really helped me understand where my thoughts were being judgmental and when they were not. And where I made assumptions (but I am not perfect )
ETA: I am the first person in my entire family (extended family and in-laws) to breastfeed.
ETA: I am the first person in my entire family (extended family and in-laws) to breastfeed.
My mother was the first to bottle feed in our family. She also told me she never just "gave us a bottle and let us go" she and my father always held us and fed us until we started using cups.
Shes why I post on this board. She did a lot of interesting things as a parent that sometimes I think could benefit other people
My mother was the first to bottle feed in our family. She also told me she never just "gave us a bottle and let us go" she and my father always held us and fed us until we started using cups.
Shes why I post on this board. She did a lot of interesting things as a parent that sometimes I think could benefit other people
Good for her. Some are quick to think that because somebody did something different, especially within the family, it means that their choices are being judged.
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others say, do and think things that we would not do ourselves.
, and I are not going around being outraged by this.
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