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Do you realize how immature it is to need your mother make phone calls for you? You're an adult! You're really doing yourself a disservice by not trying to overcome your discomfort with making phone calls. Being able to talk to people on the phone is an important life skill. Your stubbornness could be your downfall. This is about maturing. Hopefully moving out on your own will help you because you'll be put in many positions where you will HAVE to call all sorts of people.
She didn't say she needed her mom to make phone calls for her. She made it perfectly clear that when she NEEDS to call someone she does, otherwise there are other methods of communication. I only call someone when I absolutely need to, except my reason is because I have poor service at home, but you would be surprised how many other ways to get info there are these days.
She didn't say she needed her mom to make phone calls for her. She made it perfectly clear that when she NEEDS to call someone she does, otherwise there are other methods of communication. I only call someone when I absolutely need to, except my reason is because I have poor service at home, but you would be surprised how many other ways to get info there are these days.
Exactly, I don't NEED her too.
I just rather not call the doctors office or I rather google my info than make a call. There is no point in calling a place when I can find the information out in a more simpler way.
If i'm going to look the number up online of a business to call them and ask them their hours, why wouldn't I just google their hours as well?
I can in under a minute find the number to somewhere with Google.
It'd take me forever to find a phonebook even if we own one, idk and then look up the number and then call and ask. It's easier to just google the hours and be done with it.
Making phone calls and effective communication is part of adult life. You can't spend your whole life communicating via text and email. Most jobs will require some level of spoken communication - whether in person or over the phone. Most likely both. Like anything else, the more you do it the more comfortable you are with it.
This same 8 year old has problems taking her dinner dishes to the diswasher or kitchen after supper and she just leaves it there. I reminded her several times to no avail.
Then I said." If you leave your dinner dishes on the table one more time, you will have to eat your breakfast out of the dirty plate you left from the night before. '
Sure enough she left a dirty spaghetti bowl on the table and the next morning she watched in horror as I poured her cheerios into the dirty bowl. She knew I meant business as I ALMOST poured the milk over the cheerios. She begged forgiveness, ran and got a new bowl, poured the cheerios in the new bowl, put the dirty one in the dishwasher and asked me politely to pour her milk.
DH said I should have made her eat spaghetti flavored cheerios and milk but I just couldn't do it. Still she learned and most of the time she does as told. Not always but she is learning I mean what I say.
This same 8 year old has problems taking her dinner dishes to the diswasher or kitchen after supper and she just leaves it there. I reminded her several times to no avail.
Then I said." If you leave your dinner dishes on the table one more time, you will have to eat your breakfast out of the dirty plate you left from the night before. '
Sure enough she left a dirty spaghetti bowl on the table and the next morning she watched in horror as I poured her cheerios into the dirty bowl. She knew I meant business as I ALMOST poured the milk over the cheerios. She begged forgiveness, ran and got a new bowl, poured the cheerios in the new bowl, put the dirty one in the dishwasher and asked me politely to pour her milk.
DH said I should have made her eat spaghetti flavored cheerios and milk but I just couldn't do it. Still she learned and most of the time she does as told. Not always but she is learning I mean what I say.
I could never do that to someone.
That's just nasty. Down right disgusting.
I can see the point behind it but I would skip breakfast instead of eat out of a dirty bowl.
I honestly couldn't force myself to stick the food in my mouth. I'd be too grossed out.
I could never do that to someone.
That's just nasty. Down right disgusting.
I can see the point behind it but I would skip breakfast instead of eat out of a dirty bowl.
I honestly couldn't force myself to stick the food in my mouth. I'd be too grossed out.
Exactly. And next time you'd put the dish in the dishwasher. No yelling, screaming or hitting necessary. Just the natural consequence of actions (or lack thereof
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I could never do that to someone.
That's just nasty. Down right disgusting.
I can see the point behind it but I would skip breakfast instead of eat out of a dirty bowl.
I honestly couldn't force myself to stick the food in my mouth. I'd be too grossed out.
Did you even read it? She didn't actually make her eat the cheerios.
This is similar to the way it works in our house, though the kids are a bit big for a smack on the butt. If I ask them to pick something up twice and they don't, they obviously don't want the item anymore. Most of the time, I don't want the item either, and into the rectangular file (aka garbage can) it goes. You don't take care of your things, you lose 'em!
I almost feel like doing this with my roommates belongings. It drives me nuts to have a messy "common" area.
Well, essentially life has a way of teaching us all lessons. Even if our parents allowed us to slide with "I don't want to," chances are school will not. And if school does, chances are job will not. Somewhere most of us all do learn that we have to do a lot of things in life we don't necessarily want to. Pretty much no one escapes that.
She didn't say she needed her mom to make phone calls for her. She made it perfectly clear that when she NEEDS to call someone she does, otherwise there are other methods of communication.
She said her mother makes calls for her. Revisit her post:
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Originally Posted by txtqueen
My mom tries to make me talk on the phone to places, yet I'm stubborn and will just not do it and she ends up calling for me or just calling herself.
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Originally Posted by Smooth23
I only call someone when I absolutely need to, except my reason is because I have poor service at home, but you would be surprised how many other ways to get info there are these days.
This isn't about simply getting information. It's about the ability to project confidence making phone calls. People who are afraid of talking on the phone need lots of practice. Many employers do phone interviews prior to giving a face to face interview. It saves time, weeding out the undesirables more quickly. If you're uncomfortable talking on the phone, it will be obvious to an interviewer that you are not skilled at verbal communication and you won't be invited for a face to face interview. Anyone who has issues with making phone calls should be practicing as much as possible. You never know when presenting yourself well on the telephone could make a huge impact on your life.
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