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Originally Posted by hlsess
Ok- so my daughter turned 18 a week ago- today I see in her cartilage a dang small earring-she has mentioned wanting it before AND tattoos .I really was shocked that she really did it- I again reminded her how tattoos are forever.. she said she didn't want one- and also reminded me that she can take this out of her cartilage(which i don't even know it that's correct). I am disappointed in her b/c she knows I don't like it. I realize that she is 18 now and I don't have alot of say but she still does live with me. Do you just let it go-I've kinda decided not to make a big deal about it and see what happens. it's not that visible sinc eh er hair covers it up. She is one of those kids that never fit in- never made a ton of close friends but is pretty smart and all-I love her to death but always just wonder soemtimes why she acts the way she does.any advice??
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She can take it out.
I have my cartilage done and recently got it done as well.
She is 18.
Sure, it is your house and your rules but unless you want to have a happy and healthy relationship with your now adult daughter, you won't say/do anything.
You could go all hover mother on her and demand she take it out as long as she lives under your roof or punishments will be dealt out if she doesn't.
But if you want to do the right thing you let her find herself and make her own choices.
So if she comes home with more piercings, a tattoo, anything, let it go, don't say anything, she needs to go though this and find who she is and making her live under strict rules or treating her like a child and placing those restrictions on her is going to keep her from making those necessary growths she has to go through whether she lives at home or not.
In the past month I have gotten 6 piercings. I re-did my traditional lobe piercings, added my second lobe piercing, a cartilage piercing and my belly button piercing.
My mom pretty much hates everything but the traditional piercings.
She doesn't even know about the belly button though.
But I like them, I need to go though this phase to go past it, if I ever do, I like these piercings now, so I have them now and if I start to not like them I can always take them out.
Let her be. It's whats best.