Pre-teen boys (am I nieve)?

[malamute]

Originally Posted by Ceece

The girls may be more interested in him than he is in them. My son was 13 when a girl called the house and asked him to be her boyfriend. He had friends who were girls in his group that he played games with and such, but nothing romantic. He freaked out and wanted to go spend the week at his grandparents to get away from it all. lol.

My daughter called a boy and asked him to be her boyfriend when she was 13, he reacted the same way my son did.

That's true. I've noticed that usually with a group of 12 year old girls, they'll giggle and gossip about this or that boy, boys are definitely a main topic.

Take a group of 12 year old boys and they'll talk about cars, video games and how to find the game cheats, or how to make it past some obstacle, they'll talk about teachers, sports, their dogs. Girls never come up as a topic UNLESS girls walks by or physically enter the picture, then the boys will become silly and suddenly interested in girls.

[Tish Thompson]

I don't think you're naive to believe that your 12 year old isn't interested in girls yet and I think it's ridiculous that so many people think everyone is like that. We are all different and don't fit the same profile. I'm a woman who was a late bloomer and I have three kids who are late bloomers. I had my first boyfriend at 16 and it didn't last because I just wasn't interested. My son is the same way. My 15 year old tried the boyfriend thing and they broke up because he wouldn't stop bugging her to HOLD HANDS. You know what's best for your child. Do what you know is right.

Originally Posted by lpdsag

I have a 12 year old son who is very intelligent yet gets along with everyone. I am noticing a couple of girls stopping at the house and calling him on his cell phone. Yet I know, you say cell phone-at 12? Yes, he has a cell phone because he walks to his junior high for music everyday and it is a mile away from whom and he crosses busy streets. My concern is this; am I crazy to think my child is just not interested in girls? I have had talks with him about the birds and the bees but nothing really in depth to this point. He is not a phone talker so when they call him it is usually short. My friends and co-workers said I should not even let me talk on the phone at his age. Am I being to nieve to think he is to young to be that interested in girls yet. He is my oldest and I am not sure how to handle this or if I should do anything at all. I am the only female in my house with a husband and 3 sons. I don't know what age boys start getting interested in girls. I here girls find interest in boys much sooner.

Please give me advice!

[dr74]

Directed towards the OP...

You are correct girls do develop faster than boys this is a fact...
Boys do not catch up to girls cognitively till they are in 5th grade, their response is delayed by 5 seconds...as opposed to girls, lol...Imagine my shock to learn this as I to am a mother of a newly turned 14 year old!

Socially and emotionally? You will have young and old in stages between both genders, meaning there are young 12 year olds and older 12 year olds, there is nothing with this it just is..

My son was like this...a young 12..and he would rather be skateboarding and surfing and playing Modern warfare on the xbox than mess with girls...I would see texts from girls on his phone ( we have an open phone policy) and I was like "wth" I would question him and he would state "I do not know what they want"

It has been these last two years that I have had to really be close with him regarding girls since he likes them now and they still like him...eeeek..
Do not worry too much unless you see something very inappropriate...


Good luck! I need it too, My son starts HS in August OMG!

[Ina.Click]

Jason_Els: Thank you so much!

[415_s2k]

12 years old is one of those crossroad points where it could go either way. When I was 12 and entered 6th grade, at the onset, I was mildly interested in girls. They'd call my house and ask for me, and there would be one talking and a bunch giggling in the background. It'd usually go something like this:

Me: "Hello?"
Them: "Hiiiii."
"Hey."
"Soooo what are you up to?"
"Uh, playing Sega with Mike."
"*whisper whisper whisper* *hee hee* Do you want to come over?"
"Uh, well, we're eating pizza and playing Eternal Champions... my parents got me the Sega Channel so I can play like a hundred games and stuff. It's really cool."
"*whisper whisper whisper* Do you think Marlena is cute?"
"Uh, I guess."
*muffled laughter and giggling* "Marlena thinks you're cute."
"Oh, cool."
"Do you want to come over?"
"Uh, no, I think I'm just gonna stay here and play Sega."

I have no doubt that as soon as the phone hung up, they were like "UUUUUUGH STUPID BOYS!"

Fast forward another four months, and I would always try to get behind certain girls in line so I could check them out and watch them walk. I was like, "whoooooooa." I started being like this way before most of my friends, and it was the sort of situation where if I was out riding my bike with my friends and we passed by a group of girls from school, if they called out to us, I'd stop and go, "Hey." *blank stare*

Them: "So what are you guys doing?"
Me: "Uh, riding bikes."
Them: "Where are you guys going?"
Me: "We were gonna go try to catch some snakes out in the woods."
Them: "Eeeeeeew snakes, uuuugh."
Me: "Snakes are cool."
Them: "Do you want to go up to Circle K with us and get a Slurpee?"
Me: *looks at friends* *looks at girls* *friend has an 18-speed mountain bike* *girls smell nice and have pretty hair* "Okay."