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So having met Mom A wouldn't have made any difference, since Mom B was supposed to pick up, right? So is your anger directed at Mom A or Mom B? Yes, What Mom B did was wrong. I'm with you watching to make sure the kid gets inside safe and all. I wonder why Mom B didn't apparently know that she was supposed to pick up 3 not 1 girl.
I don't understand either why Momb didn't know she was picking up 3 girls, but when she realized that, she should have been proactive in doing something, like make two trips to get them, or stay with them until another parent came, or something, anything other than just drive off. That's just plain unacceptable!
After all at this point you are assuming a lot. Who knows? Maybe the girls told that parent you were picking them up, so they could go out with some older boys...maybe only one showed up, so the friend went with him, or maybe your daughter did not like the whole situation, but does not want to get her friend in trouble. I have had three teenage daughters, and sometimes they don't always tell Mom what is going on. I had two step daughters who were whose parents were very strict so they just lied to them all the time, about everything, so they would not get in trouble. It was an interesting dynamic, because my daughter never lied to me, and yet would get caught up in their drama...
Wait and see...you may not even get the whole story if your daughter is afraid of getting into trouble from you if she does tell the truth...something to think about.
Knowing the taxi number and some extra cash sounds like a good idea. Things have definitely changed in recent years; now it's tough to even find a pay phone. I remember calling home from a mall on one of those in years past. You're right that not all adults are responsible, but at least you can take some comfort in knowing that you've raised a responsible daughter.
It sounds like your dd did the right thing. It is confusing that two moms were involved. Did Mom A not communicate that Mom B was to pick up three girls? Mom B certainly did the wrong thing leaving two girls alone without knowing they had a ride home. What happened to the other girl who was left?
dd went to the mall with 2 other girls. Mom A took the girls to the mall, Mom B was supposed to pick them up.
Well, MomB came to pick them up---that's 3 girls altogether, but she had other people in the car and only room for her daughter, so she just left my dd and the other girl there. didn't even bother to ask if they had a way home, didn't bother to ask if they had a cell phone, just drove off.
But in your original post, you said:
We got a call almost 9:30 pm from frantic DD, alone at the mall, the girls had run off and left her
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I assumed if they took her, they would return her.
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You pick up a child you take responsibility for her, you don't run off and leave her. I don't care what you thought, I don't care if your girls told you she left, they couldn't find her, etc, YOU were RESPONSIBLE FOR MY CHILD If somehow you couldn't find her, you should have located us somehow
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Even if this woman didn't have our cell, her dd had our name, and obviously they knew where we lived, they came here and picked her up, they should have come by here and said they couldn't locate her, anything but leave her stranded in the mall!
and now you're saying there was a third parent involved who was supposed to pick them all up but left your daughter and another child behind because of no room in the car.
I'm just confused now as to what actually happened.
did you ever talk to Mom B before your daughter left? For all we know, Mom B didn't know she was picking up all 3 girls. You daughter either did the right thing by calling home or she lied about arrangements for a ride in the first place.
What happened to the other girl? Was your DD with her in the mall after mom B picked up the one? I'm confused, as you stated earlier that your DD was alone in the mall, yet the other girl wasn't picked up either...?
Many on this board have accused me of being too protective, domineering, etc. I disagree.
with a 13 year old daughter, I feel its my RESPONSIBILITY to know where she's at and who she's with. I don't care what others think, those are MY RULES
So now, flame me for this!
I will find this woman and give her my opinion on her treatment of my child---she will not like what she will hear!
So WTF are you so mad this board? Get a grip, lady and quit looking here for validation. Jeez.
It sounds like your dd did the right thing. It is confusing that two moms were involved. Did Mom A not communicate that Mom B was to pick up three girls? Mom B certainly did the wrong thing leaving two girls alone without knowing they had a ride home. What happened to the other girl who was left?
The other girl who was left my dh brought home when he picked up dd.
I don't know what the communication was between MomA and Momb, I didn't even know two parents were involved. I thought MomA was doing all the dropping off and picking up. That's why I usually insist on knowing the "game plan" not because I don't trust my dd, I don't pick apart her every move because I think she's sneaking around on me, its just that I am her MOTHER. I want to be included in the loop, just in case something goes wrong.
I can just see what others would say to me if I did such a thing.
I didn't make a big fuss when dd came home tonight, other than to get the whole story. Now she's beginning to realize, I'm not trying to ruin her fun or clip her wings, I just want to make sure she's safely growing towards adulthood.
So WTF are you so mad this board? Get a grip, lady and quit looking here for validation. Jeez.
Hey, when did I say I was mad at this board? I said I was mad at the situation----you're the one who needs to get a grip!
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