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Yeah, and the average 25/26 year old doesn't have a Master's or a 95k/yr salary. IF I stay focus and finish graduate with my Master's in Nurse Practitioning, I will start at 95k/yr.
Yes, I know, very unusual case, but I'm not like the rest.
Ya, that's great, if it actually happens, but it ain't the millions that Sandra Bullock has. Are you going to keep comparing yourself to her?
I can understand the flaws in that, because I have a child. It's not just about what YOU do or don't THINK you want.
Certainly, but I am also looking at it from a child's view. I had a father who was a terrible role model and overall person, and I would rather have had just my mom and him to have never been in my life. My child, I'm certain, would rather have one happy, marvelous parent than to have a miserable one, and tbh, I don't think I'd be happy in a relationship. When I was in one, I was stressed and not happy and now that I'm starting over, single, I am much more happy and optimistic about life in general, and that is the attitude I want to bestow onto my child.
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You don't understand what it takes until you have one. So you can tell me how it's going to be all you like, but there are people here who are already parents, and believe it or not we aren't just talking to hear ourselves speak.
I understand, but it seems like you aren't getting it. I don't want a relationship, and I shouldn't be punished for not wanting one by having to remain childless. Do you understand?
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If you don't understand that, then you are lacking the maturity it takes to do what you're planning. If you did have the maturity, if I thought you truly UNDERSTOOD, then my responses to you would be entirely different.
But you don't understand my posts either or none of you would insist I wait until I have a partner when it is clear I do not want one! Understand that not everyone is relationship material or wants to be in a relationship. Some people are happy alone and single. I'm at that point where I am happy and without a man, and I would like to continue my life that way, and I shouldn't be denied a chance at motherhood because of that.
Ya, that's great, if it actually happens, but it ain't the millions that Sandra Bullock has. Are you going to keep comparing yourself to her?
Honestly, you have yet to answer my question, but whatever. And money isn't everything, and it doesn't take millions to raise a baby. Get that through your head. I am pretty sure a woman can raise a baby and support herself with 95k/yr, so it still moots your argument. Jeeze louise.
How did this thread go from talking about the ideal age to have your first baby to trying to influence "TiltheEndofTime" to think otherwise about choosing to become an unmarried mother? She thinks what she thinks and we can't change that.
Let's get back on topic here.
Good question. I stand by my earlier post that says it really will depend on the specific person's situation. There are more and less favorable circumstances to have a child, but I don't believe there is a universal "ideal" time. I do think a basic understanding that life stops being "all about you" when one brings a child into the world is important, regardless of one's age.
How did this thread go from talking about the ideal age to have your first baby to trying to influence "TiltheEndofTime" to think otherwise about choosing to become an unmarried mother? She thinks what she thinks and we can't change that.
Let's get back on topic here.
I was thinking the exact same thing. I've been following this thread for entertainment purposes but it's getting monotonous. I don't understand why everyone is so hell-bent on trying to convince her from doing what she wants as if it affects their lives. No one's mind is going to change here so can y'all get back to talking about something interesting so I can stop being bored please?
Good question. I stand by my earlier post that says it really will depend on the specific person's situation. There are more and less favorable circumstances to have a child, but I don't believe there is a universal "ideal" time. I do think a basic understanding that life stops being "all about you" when one brings a child into the world is important, regardless of one's age.
I agree but people seem to like to push their ideals on others on what they "should" do. It's silly because everyone is different and wants different things in life and shouldn't be penalized for that.
Honestly, you have yet to answer my question, but whatever. And money isn't everything, and it doesn't take millions to raise a baby. Get that through your head. I am pretty sure a woman can raise a baby and support herself with 95k/yr, so it still moots your argument. Jeeze louise.
I was thinking the exact same thing. I've been following this thread for entertainment purposes but it's getting monotonous. I don't understand why everyone is so hell-bent on trying to convince her from doing what she wants as if it affects their lives. No one's mind is going to change here so can y'all get back to talking about something interesting so I can stop being bored please?
Sorry for high jacking the thread.
I just wish everyone would accept my decision and stop shoving their ideals down my throat of the typical two parent household because it it isn't for everyone.
Don't base anything on what you're going through now. There is no such thing as 'youthful energy' when there is sleep deprivation in the mix. You will sleep again!
That's not true. I deal with sleep deprivation and have for over a decade (I am a physician). It was lots easier when I was in my 20s than it is now. Recovery takes longer. Switches are harder, etc.
I'm using Sandra Bullock as an example. How does that speak volumes? I think she is a great mother. She is older, more mature, has all the money, time, and love in the world...Louis is a lucky baby to have her for a mum.
Again, why do people have such a problem with a financially stable, mature and able 26 year old choosing to parent alone (adopted or otherwise)?
And yes, I realize, single parenting isn't it, but it certainly isn't so hard and impossible that it shouldn't even be considered.
Because like I already said, choosing to be a single mom on purpose is one of the most selfish things a woman can ever do.
And even considering this plan shows a real lack of maturity and understanding of what it takes to be a mother in the first place.
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