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what sucked for me was I did not have anything close to an active teen life or a good childhood but at the same time was put in a bad situation in terms of academics as well
worst of both worlds
I voted not the best, not the worst. I guess we won't convince you that your parents weren't the worst. But you can't change the past. You have to start where you are. When people focus only on the negatives in their lives, and dwell on things that happened in the past, they wind up sabotaging themselves. You will get nowhere by doing that.
A healthy family relationship usually involves a dynamic where people trust each other, feel safe amongst each other, feel valued and respected. A healthy relationship also entails every member feeling a sense of being a separate individual with their own thoughts, feelings and opinions. Yes, even children need to have a mind of their own, even when they aren't always right or experienced enough.
That is YOUR definition!! Who died and made you God so you get to decide for everyone???
The point of my post, which zooomed right over your head, is that each family has it's own definition of good family relationships. And, whether self appointed Gods like you like it or not, you don't get to tell the rest of us how to manage our relationships.
The all business relationships of asian families have served them well for hundreds of years. Now you're going to tell them and their ancesters they're wrong? Who are you to judge them?
You guys didn't get by what I meant by all business.
I am trying to search youtube so I can show you a clip of this wife swap episode where it shows EXACTLY what I am trying to get across to you guys.
You know how you talk to children, you especially know how you talk to your own children and interact with them.
These "all business" families don't talk to their kids like children, its like watching them talk to a stranger. There is no emotion, no nothing.
If anyone else here watches wife swap, it was the one family that home schooled, they had a pool with some sort of thing around it, like one of those deck coverings with walls, the new mom during rule change had them have a pool party.
The husband and wife were kind of nerdy and awkward.
If anyone knows which one I am talking about, they didn't talk to their children like they were their children, they talked to them with no emotion, very fact of the matter and they obviously didn't know how to talk to kids.
they didn't talk to their children like they were their children, they talked to them with no emotion, very fact of the matter and they obviously didn't know how to talk to kids.
Lol. I think you just hate parents who doesn't parent the way YOU want them to.
You'll learn. It's not a one-size-fits-all proposition. For some families "no emotion" works.
Lol. I think you just hate parents who doesn't parent the way YOU want them to.
You'll learn. It's not a one-size-fits-all proposition. For some families "no emotion" works.
For who?
These are children, not robots and unless you want them to grow up with some serious emotional issues its probably better to speak/show emotion towards them.
Oh yeah because emotionless is good for some people...
Because we all know those emotionally devoid people are the best to be around. /sarcasm
Sorry dear but no one died and made you God. You don't get to tell others what is right for them.
My family was pretty emotionless but my parents taught me the basics of what I needed to know to succeed in life. They didn't owe it to me to be gushy and warm. They owed it to me to raise me, keep a roof over my head, food in my stomache and to teach me what I needed to know to survive in life. Looking at myself and my 5 siblings, obviously, they didn't do too bad. Do I wish mom had been affectionate? No. I don't know life any other way. That was my normal. Yours may be different but that doesn't make yours better. It just makes you arrogant because you think it's better.
Sorry dear but no one died and made you God. You don't get to tell others what is right for them.
My family was pretty emotionless but my parents taught me the basics of what I needed to know to succeed in life. They didn't owe it to me to be gushy and warm. They owed it to me to raise me, keep a roof over my head, food in my stomache and to teach me what I needed to know to survive in life. Looking at myself and my 5 siblings, obviously, they didn't do too bad. Do I wish mom had been affectionate? No. I don't know life any other way. That was my normal. Yours may be different but that doesn't make yours better. It just makes you arrogant because you think it's better.
Hopefully no one.
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Who died and made you God so you get to decide for everyone???
