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But look at some parents they talk to their kids like they don't even know them, like they might talk to someone else's kids or something.
Some parents are very business with their kids and from the outside looking in the way they conduct themselves towards their children it looks so impersonal and distant.
So what? Some parents take the business of making sure their kids get onto a good path seriously. It is, after all, serious business.
love and acceptance makes for a more emotionally healthy person down the road. All hugs and nothing else isn't so good and so is all business. the best parents always find the right balance.
Nobody, even the best parent, always finds the right balance. Raising a child for 18, 20, years or whatever is going to involve mistakes, and probably a lot of them.
I agree that child-raising should involve teaching how to have healthy family relationships - which requires actually having relationships with one's children. If a child misses a semester of something, and fails to master a particular skill, that can be remedied later. Love, trust, acceptance, loyalty, are difficult if not impossible to learn how to offer and receive if you have been raised without them.
love and acceptance makes for a more emotionally healthy person down the road. All hugs and nothing else isn't so good and so is all business. the best parents always find the right balance.
Well, if this thread were about the best parents, your post might have merit.
And I disagree. What works for one family, may or may not work for the next. I can see where all hugs and kisses would be a problem but all business is just taking the job of parenting seriously. I, personally, like some balance but that's my choice and my personality. I've raised a child I had to be all business with.
Nobody, even the best parent, always finds the right balance. Raising a child for 18, 20, years or whatever is going to involve mistakes, and probably a lot of them.
I agree that child-raising should involve teaching how to have healthy family relationships - which requires actually having relationships with one's children. If a child misses a semester of something, and fails to master a particular skill, that can be remedied later. Love, trust, acceptance, loyalty, are difficult if not impossible to learn how to offer and receive if you have been raised without them.
But what is a healthy family relationship? Do we use your defintion, my defintion or his parents definition? Relationships are personal. What's right for you may not be for me or them. We may find we don't like the way our parents raised us and that our kids don't like the way we raised them.
Brahman, from your name, are you of Indian origin?
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what sucked for me was I did not have anything close to an active teen life or a good childhood but at the same time was put in a bad situation in terms of academics as well
Well, if this thread were about the best parents, your post might have merit.
And I disagree. What works for one family, may or may not work for the next. I can see where all hugs and kisses would be a problem but all business is just taking the job of parenting seriously. I, personally, like some balance but that's my choice and my personality. I've raised a child I had to be all business with.
What might have happened if you weren't "all business"?
But what is a healthy family relationship? Do we use your defintion, my defintion or his parents definition? Relationships are personal. What's right for you may not be for me or them. We may find we don't like the way our parents raised us and that our kids don't like the way we raised them.
A healthy family relationship usually involves a dynamic where people trust each other, feel safe amongst each other, feel valued and respected. A healthy relationship also entails every member feeling a sense of being a separate individual with their own thoughts, feelings and opinions. Yes, even children need to have a mind of their own, even when they aren't always right or experienced enough.
what sucked for me was I did not have anything close to an active teen life or a good childhood but at the same time was put in a bad situation in terms of academics as well
worst of both worlds
What does having an active teen life mean? What exactly did they keep you from doing? You are also vague about a bad childhood. Can you share what some of the good aspects to your life were? I'm just curious, not judging.
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